Question: Are you real ? Do you consider yourself to be a genuine person? Are you accepting of others as they are? Are you inviting? Do you genuinely care about others and their lives and situations or do you feign interest. Meaning do you inquire about others lives but really don't care what they're going through. Do you only deal with people who make you feel good about you and as long as they're blowing smoke up your ass and giving you love , attention and compliments. That's my girl ! That's my dawg ! That my friend or homie. But the moment people tell us the truth about ourselves , things we know , but don't live up to or admit abiut ourselves. Now they're a hater , they don't want your happiness , they're assholes. But let's be honest. How many of us are drunks , or nosey or drug addicts or promiscuous. How many of us keep it real with ourselves. How many people lie to themselves when they look in the mirror and want the rest of the world to go along with that lie. Ask yourself. Do you know someone who is bad with money but blames the job , the economy , inflation , everything else but themselves for the lack of things they want but can't have. How many have friends who sleep around or jump from relationship to relationship. They find something wrong with every potential mate they have. They're to short , to tall , to skinny , talk to much , never spend time , to clingy, work to much , never have money. But these same people will say they can't find a partner and tell the world they're standards aren't high they just need to find someone to live up to them. When in actuality they don't live up to them themselves. How many of us are loud , obnoxious , rude , inconsiderate , belligerent , assholes. But want the world to adhere to us , want others to accept us and all our flaws , quirks , hang-ups and odd behaviors. But are the first to judge and point out flaws in others. Look at yourself through others eyes. You might not be as cool or funny or friendly , or humble or considerate as we think we are. I had to learn that myself. If you want understanding and empathy , you want to not be judged or taken for granted. You want people to listen to you and not assume things about you. Try seeing yourself not through rose colored glasses. But as you actually are. You might find out , Wow ! I can be condescending and uninviting. I can be judgemental and inconsiderate. I can be pig headed and stubborn. I can be selfish and rude. Once you can look at yourself in the mirror and accept who you really are. Then you can make the adjustments and display the character, integrity , and moral compass that we want others to have when dealing with us.
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