One thing life has taught me is never to judge a friend by their inability to come through for me when I need them. You see, sometimes we assume everyone is okay and expect too much from them before we even find out what situation they are in. You could be getting angry at someone for not standing by you when you need/needed help yet maybe the person is/was going through something worse, only they kept it to themselves. A good friend will understand you in both your presence and absence.

I've heard people say "but where was he/she when I was down?" Fine, you could have been down, but did you bother to find out why he/she didn't come through? Maybe, just maybe they were in a deeper pit than you but put up a brave face. Great friendships have ended this way, due to pure assumptions. Some people don't show or say when they are drowning in sorrow. They speak up after they get their heads above the water. So you might think someone is ghosting you during your time of need but they are going through worse. You won't know because unlike you, they won't show. It takes a keen eye of friendship to see beyond and understand them.

I've come to understand humans as they are. I don't condemn people. I am not so good at making new friends, so I try my best to keep the ones I have.

Sometimes we just have to give people the break they need and don't use it against them. As long as they are purely on a break and not using it to bring you down, let's learn to give friends the spring they need to bounce back. .....and when they finally bounce back from their break, shall we embrace them?

Let's not be quick to talk ill of others.
It doesn't cost a dime to keep calm and let be.
Let's embrace humanity, it's all we got.

My parting shot as always.....THE BEST PLACE TO FIND A HELPING HAND IS AT THE END OF YOUR OWN ARM!