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Don't give up if you see their potential
Public service announcement: When we were younger we were foolish. Some of us were taught foolishness by adults as a way of life. Some of us learn through trail and error and mistakes. Some of us have to bump our heads multiple times before we learn. Through setbacks , failures , jail , prison , getting beat up, losing jobs or money and opportunities. But isn't that life though. Even in relationships we might be self centered , ego or pride driven , inconsiderate or emotionally unavailable. If you weren't taught to know what real love , real relationships are , you either wing it or do what you've seen. Which isn't always right. So if you have a partner who loves you and wants to be the best version of themselves for you. Let them evolve to it. We as people are quick to find fault in others. Quick to highlight how messed up or immature or wrong others are. But What's the truth.
You only know them from the point when you met. So you don't know how far they have come. What you may see as them being childish or immature or violent , ghetto and irrational. May be the condensed version of who they were. Which could've been far worse.
Now I'm not saying you should stay in any relationship where your not appreciated , adored , cherished or value and respected. Some people have low tolerance for Bullshit. So should they wait for someone they love to stop doing something they don't like or to change their character or behavior. By no means. Your life is your life. When you enter into a relationship it's a merger of two lives. Your triumphs , goals , fears , accomplishments , problems , failures and obstacles become one. Some come with baggage from past relationships , children , bills , bad credit , daddy issues , addictions and insecurities. But we have to be honest we picked , who we picked. Now we often find ourselves in relationships of convenience or situations that turned into relationships. In those cases you have to weigh your options and ask yourself. " Is this someone i want to merge myself with and build a life. Some people are self centered and entitled they want what they want when they want , how they want and will move on and bounce around from relationship to relationship only staying long enough to advance themselves or use the opportunity to evolve then move on till the next. If they don't see an immediate opportunity for potential. Then wether intimacy is great or not they stay for a while , get what they can get out of it , then poof , their gone. That's not love! By all means live your life , you only get one. But for those who believe in love and believe in the potential of the person they choose to be with and love. You have to say to yourself. Do I believe they are a person who wants the best for themselves and me ? Do we share the same values , goals , morals , and beliefs? Do we want the same things ? Do I see my partner for who they are and who they want to be? Rather then who they were or who their not. People don't realize that the belief in you by someone that loves you can be the only motivation some need to be better. Like this part or not , but it's the reason why men and women cheat and hurt each other in relationships. Then once they find that person who sees them for who they are and want to be they can change and be the best version of themselves. Their Ex's are left wondering 🤔 What was wrong with me ? With me they cheated did drugs , fought and had constant arguments , hung out , ran the streets , was selfish and inconsiderate. Then you hear about them in their new relationship and they don't go out , they work , love spending time with their spouse , they are attentive , loving , considerate understanding and empathetic. Why is that? Because we as flawed humans tend to gravitate towards who puts genuine interest , love , care and attention in us. Not to those who feign interest for personal gain. Same reason why you see celebrities hoping from relationship to relationship , then find that one and stay till the end. So find the person who is for you and be for them. See your partner for who they are and who they want to be. Not just the things they do now. Situations , circumstances , lack of knowledge , bad decisions , ego , pride , and depression and opportunities cause us to do many things. Some good some bad , some horrible. Now if your with someone and their character , their speech , their actions , never give you insight to their potential then by all means RUN! But if your with someone who loves you and wants to give you the best version of themselves but their a work in progress and need time to get through their drama , pain , generational curse , past failures and insecurities. Let them work their stuff out in their time. Be supportive and patient. Because your loyalty and steadfastness , patience and love will be their motivation and ambition to be the best partner they can be for you !
© ockindev213
You only know them from the point when you met. So you don't know how far they have come. What you may see as them being childish or immature or violent , ghetto and irrational. May be the condensed version of who they were. Which could've been far worse.
Now I'm not saying you should stay in any relationship where your not appreciated , adored , cherished or value and respected. Some people have low tolerance for Bullshit. So should they wait for someone they love to stop doing something they don't like or to change their character or behavior. By no means. Your life is your life. When you enter into a relationship it's a merger of two lives. Your triumphs , goals , fears , accomplishments , problems , failures and obstacles become one. Some come with baggage from past relationships , children , bills , bad credit , daddy issues , addictions and insecurities. But we have to be honest we picked , who we picked. Now we often find ourselves in relationships of convenience or situations that turned into relationships. In those cases you have to weigh your options and ask yourself. " Is this someone i want to merge myself with and build a life. Some people are self centered and entitled they want what they want when they want , how they want and will move on and bounce around from relationship to relationship only staying long enough to advance themselves or use the opportunity to evolve then move on till the next. If they don't see an immediate opportunity for potential. Then wether intimacy is great or not they stay for a while , get what they can get out of it , then poof , their gone. That's not love! By all means live your life , you only get one. But for those who believe in love and believe in the potential of the person they choose to be with and love. You have to say to yourself. Do I believe they are a person who wants the best for themselves and me ? Do we share the same values , goals , morals , and beliefs? Do we want the same things ? Do I see my partner for who they are and who they want to be? Rather then who they were or who their not. People don't realize that the belief in you by someone that loves you can be the only motivation some need to be better. Like this part or not , but it's the reason why men and women cheat and hurt each other in relationships. Then once they find that person who sees them for who they are and want to be they can change and be the best version of themselves. Their Ex's are left wondering 🤔 What was wrong with me ? With me they cheated did drugs , fought and had constant arguments , hung out , ran the streets , was selfish and inconsiderate. Then you hear about them in their new relationship and they don't go out , they work , love spending time with their spouse , they are attentive , loving , considerate understanding and empathetic. Why is that? Because we as flawed humans tend to gravitate towards who puts genuine interest , love , care and attention in us. Not to those who feign interest for personal gain. Same reason why you see celebrities hoping from relationship to relationship , then find that one and stay till the end. So find the person who is for you and be for them. See your partner for who they are and who they want to be. Not just the things they do now. Situations , circumstances , lack of knowledge , bad decisions , ego , pride , and depression and opportunities cause us to do many things. Some good some bad , some horrible. Now if your with someone and their character , their speech , their actions , never give you insight to their potential then by all means RUN! But if your with someone who loves you and wants to give you the best version of themselves but their a work in progress and need time to get through their drama , pain , generational curse , past failures and insecurities. Let them work their stuff out in their time. Be supportive and patient. Because your loyalty and steadfastness , patience and love will be their motivation and ambition to be the best partner they can be for you !
© ockindev213
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