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Moving Back with your Parents: What Media isn't telling about!!
It has been long while since I last wrote a story in this app, but with recent events, I felt like I had to come back and write a story for you all.
It is a "new trend" among the Millennials or the younger generation to move in back with one's parents after a certain period of time of living on your own and experiencing adulthood. Though, let's face it we have as a society lived in our family homes or with our family for generations, so it really isn't a new thing,but for today's world, in modern and technology advance society it is a new thing to where living with your parents is considered outside the norm. Now, there some of who never moved to begin with and there many of us who still think living with our parents means we have failed in life, in our goals and in our dreams. Doesn't that society makes fun of us for choosing live with our parents or looks down upon us for it! But what if, living with your parents wasn't an option?! This is what the media doesn't talk about at all or enough are the people like me who can't live with their parents and won't or can't consider it as an option! Now, I am not talking about those who no longer have parents among the living, or those who never knew their parents and spent their entire life in the system, but if I am being perfectly honest society doesn't talk enough about it anyways! No, I am talking about those us who have Parents who are among the living and who are present in our lives where living with them isn't an option! Now, don't get me wrong I do love my parents in my own twisted way, but living with isn't possible and I can't even consider moving back in with them even if it means I am scrapping for parts living with them isn't gonna happen! So, why I am so against living with my parents? Because of two simple reasons, one: They are abusive and legally the court won't allow me too! and personally, I wouldn't be able to handle it mentally, emotionally and psychology! Believe me, if you think living with parents is torture then trust me when I say this living with my abusive parents is not only torture but also DANGEROUS! For 16 years I lived with both my mother and father and both of them were abusive in their own way, and things only got worse once my mom started dating!! After 16, I started living with my dad 24/7 and he started taking me as single Dad! I already had massive Complex PTSD from living with my mom and my dad just made it worse on top of that he did the bare minimum of what parent should do and things he did do just made it more difficult in regards to my schooling and financial stability! As the years went by he just got worse and worse both mentally and physically and would put all of his frustration on me by way of verbal attacks as well as threaten to me with homelessness! As for my mother, remember that dating I brought up, well turns out my mother started dating her college sweetheart back in the day and from the age of 9 to the age 15 my mother's college sweetheart and first love sexually abuse me! You would think my mother would use her maternal instincts and protect her child, but chose him over me and in doing so, I was granted a permanent restraining order from her now husband;however, by getting the restraining order means that until he dies I can't live with my mother! So, what does that means in regards to this "New Trend" of adult children living with their parents! It means, that unless I want to put my own safety and well being on the line not to mention risk the safety of others I have to "Stand Clear" from my parents!! No surprise that the media doesn't talk or mention those of us with abusive parents and how the "moving back" trend affects not only our well-being but also our already straind relationship that we have with them from all the abuse we endured while living with them!! I mean, the media doesn't mentioned that most homeless youth living on the streets are runways fleeing abusive homes! No, they like to come up some other story that hides the facts that so many of us come from broken and abusive families!! To make matters worse, not only is my well-being and safety at risk, I am also financially still dependent on them! Now, getting a job you would think would be simple, but if I get a job and make a certain amount, then I risk losing my housing which means I must move back in with my parents aka my dad! and the reason why I moved out in the first place was because of the abuse! So moving back?! not if I wanna go to jail for Murder! or break my restraining order! So moving back in with my parents not an option for me and many others!! Because let's face it, if we move back in with our all we are doing is repeating this cycle of violence, of abuse and torment that we tried so hard to get away from! So, for those you who are reading this and are living with parents know this, while living your parent might a convience for you, some of us do have the luxury of being about move back in even if it means going broke, living with 5 roommates, or in our car or a motel! We would rather face these unbearable and unfortunate hardships than move back in with the MONSTERS that is OUR PARENTS! And for those you who are like me who did move back in with your abusive parents, know that you are not alone and that you deserve better than living in a consistent state of fear! Sure, living a car, motel or on the street might seem horrible or uncomfortable, but ask yourself is the abuse worth it, is your well-being and or sanity worth the risk?! The choice is yours, I won't tell you how you should live, but know that you deserve a healthy and Safe home that doesn't mean a consistent state of fear! As for everyone else, please understand that those of us who choose not to live with our parents know that we have our reasons and these alone are enough for us not to follow these "New Trends" of moving back in!!
It is a "new trend" among the Millennials or the younger generation to move in back with one's parents after a certain period of time of living on your own and experiencing adulthood. Though, let's face it we have as a society lived in our family homes or with our family for generations, so it really isn't a new thing,but for today's world, in modern and technology advance society it is a new thing to where living with your parents is considered outside the norm. Now, there some of who never moved to begin with and there many of us who still think living with our parents means we have failed in life, in our goals and in our dreams. Doesn't that society makes fun of us for choosing live with our parents or looks down upon us for it! But what if, living with your parents wasn't an option?! This is what the media doesn't talk about at all or enough are the people like me who can't live with their parents and won't or can't consider it as an option! Now, I am not talking about those who no longer have parents among the living, or those who never knew their parents and spent their entire life in the system, but if I am being perfectly honest society doesn't talk enough about it anyways! No, I am talking about those us who have Parents who are among the living and who are present in our lives where living with them isn't an option! Now, don't get me wrong I do love my parents in my own twisted way, but living with isn't possible and I can't even consider moving back in with them even if it means I am scrapping for parts living with them isn't gonna happen! So, why I am so against living with my parents? Because of two simple reasons, one: They are abusive and legally the court won't allow me too! and personally, I wouldn't be able to handle it mentally, emotionally and psychology! Believe me, if you think living with parents is torture then trust me when I say this living with my abusive parents is not only torture but also DANGEROUS! For 16 years I lived with both my mother and father and both of them were abusive in their own way, and things only got worse once my mom started dating!! After 16, I started living with my dad 24/7 and he started taking me as single Dad! I already had massive Complex PTSD from living with my mom and my dad just made it worse on top of that he did the bare minimum of what parent should do and things he did do just made it more difficult in regards to my schooling and financial stability! As the years went by he just got worse and worse both mentally and physically and would put all of his frustration on me by way of verbal attacks as well as threaten to me with homelessness! As for my mother, remember that dating I brought up, well turns out my mother started dating her college sweetheart back in the day and from the age of 9 to the age 15 my mother's college sweetheart and first love sexually abuse me! You would think my mother would use her maternal instincts and protect her child, but chose him over me and in doing so, I was granted a permanent restraining order from her now husband;however, by getting the restraining order means that until he dies I can't live with my mother! So, what does that means in regards to this "New Trend" of adult children living with their parents! It means, that unless I want to put my own safety and well being on the line not to mention risk the safety of others I have to "Stand Clear" from my parents!! No surprise that the media doesn't talk or mention those of us with abusive parents and how the "moving back" trend affects not only our well-being but also our already straind relationship that we have with them from all the abuse we endured while living with them!! I mean, the media doesn't mentioned that most homeless youth living on the streets are runways fleeing abusive homes! No, they like to come up some other story that hides the facts that so many of us come from broken and abusive families!! To make matters worse, not only is my well-being and safety at risk, I am also financially still dependent on them! Now, getting a job you would think would be simple, but if I get a job and make a certain amount, then I risk losing my housing which means I must move back in with my parents aka my dad! and the reason why I moved out in the first place was because of the abuse! So moving back?! not if I wanna go to jail for Murder! or break my restraining order! So moving back in with my parents not an option for me and many others!! Because let's face it, if we move back in with our all we are doing is repeating this cycle of violence, of abuse and torment that we tried so hard to get away from! So, for those you who are reading this and are living with parents know this, while living your parent might a convience for you, some of us do have the luxury of being about move back in even if it means going broke, living with 5 roommates, or in our car or a motel! We would rather face these unbearable and unfortunate hardships than move back in with the MONSTERS that is OUR PARENTS! And for those you who are like me who did move back in with your abusive parents, know that you are not alone and that you deserve better than living in a consistent state of fear! Sure, living a car, motel or on the street might seem horrible or uncomfortable, but ask yourself is the abuse worth it, is your well-being and or sanity worth the risk?! The choice is yours, I won't tell you how you should live, but know that you deserve a healthy and Safe home that doesn't mean a consistent state of fear! As for everyone else, please understand that those of us who choose not to live with our parents know that we have our reasons and these alone are enough for us not to follow these "New Trends" of moving back in!!
