I'm no relationship expert. I'm just an observer of humanity. So take this as you will.

Before I start, I hate the word "get". Get the girl, get a husband. You get the mail and the flu. You win each other's hearts.

Guys, do you truly want to win her heart? Start by really listening to her. Not just what she says but what she doesn't say too.

She tells you she likes chamomile tea to relax. She also says she loves coffee and a good wine. The two of you are sitting in the living room on a Saturday afternoon. What drink do you bring her? Coffee, chamomile tea, or wine?

Try the tea. She probably is relaxing so she would really love the tea right now. And she'll probably be touched that you made the effort for her.

See, a lot of guys hear their lady's words but they don't listen to why she said them. That's an important part of how women communicate. Women will tell you exactly what they want and don't want when they know you're really interested in what they have to say.

A great way to learn what a lot of women want is to join a forum and simply listen. Don't tune out the "girl talk" threads. Those are where they tend to feel the most comfortable. Obviously your lady isn't every woman. But listening will give you a great place to...