Here's a test to see if the person your with is in love with you as much as you are them. I personally feel that when your in love with someone like actually really in love with them. You want the best for them , you want to take care of every need and alleviate all pain and harm. You want to give comfort and support. You learn them in and out. Their likes , dislikes , wants , needs , pet peeves , and discomforts. You share everything as a matter of fact its not sharing because you look at them as yours , so what's yours is theirs and vice versa. You don't keep score. Your a team. He can't be wrong and your right and she can't be right if your wrong. Because out side of your relationship your looked at as one. If your dirty she's dirty , If he's a liar and shady , the assumption is you are what you lay down with. So wether you are or not it's assumed your the same or your ok with it. Your a representation of each other. if you a guy and your wife / girlfriend doesn't take pride in her appearance dresses frumpy , doesn't shower and is just unattractive. She's a reflection of you. You could be the most well dressed attractive man on the planet and all other's will say is have you seen his wife/girlfriend eww. 😝 The same as with women. You can be the flyest , most attractive , dressed to the 9's , hair and nails always done , smelling like heaven every time you step out. But if your husband/boyfriend doesn't shave , wears old clothes and doesn't change his drawers and smells like WTF and always showing his plumbers crack. The consensus is your either in it for a check or your just as nasty and dirty but putting up a front for appearances. I bring up this point to show that in a relationship you are considered one , not separate but equal , but one. Even in arguments there is no winner or loser. Think about it if she's wrong and feels bad but you claim to love her , how could you take joy and triumph in you being right and she being wrong or him being wrong and you being right. If I love you , I don't want you hurt or feelings bad. That's not saying one won't be wrong sometimes or one won't be right. But as a team, as partners the right and wrong shouldn't matter. The solution should be the goal. if your wrong admit it , and take responsibility for the action. If your right don't rub it in , put your partner up on their lack of , and move on. You choose each other to be with on purpose. You don't have to be together. A relationship is a merger of two lives in all aspects. Accomplishments , flaws , problems , goals , ambitions , debts , children , families , addictions , pains , past , present and future. You are saying I'm willing to take on all you are and all you bring. if their worth it to you. Think of it as when you buy something you wait in line , you wait for a sale , you research and hunt till you get it , because you feel it's worth it. So if you put the same into the partner that you choose. Then you have to be confident in your choice. Wether they are where you would like them to be or not. You chose them because you see who they are inside and who they have the potential to become. Look at the celebrities who have been in relationships for decades. They weren't rich when they met and they probably went through all kinds of ups and downs and sacrifices on their journey. But they knew they choose a winner and stuck by them as a dedicated team mate. Now they reap the benefits of their investments. Their heart , time, love , tolerance , forgiveness, pain , heartache and failures. Led them to the life of abundance and wealth that they live now. So back to the test. if you want to know if your spouse loves you. Go make them something they like without asking and see if they offer you some. No person that loves another could watch you do something without offering help. If your cleaning and they don't grab a broom or start helping you. If your carrying something and they don't offer to lighten the load or carry it completely. if your visibly cold and you don't even say it and they can see your cold and don't grab you a jacket or blanket or offer you theirs. If you stop at a store , restaurant or gas station and they go in amd grab things for themselves but don't offer or ask if you want something. Then you should question their love. Now I know some of you will say we'll some of us wasn't raised that way or know or think like that. Some of you will say we'll if they don't ask why should i do this or that. But put it in perspective. Why would they have to? 🤷 If I am with you I love you unconditionally and we are a team. Then I'm going to do everything in my power to see you at your best make you feel loved , honored , cherished and adored and frankly if you don't feel the sake about me then I believe we shouldn't be in a relationship. ( Like and comment for part 2 of Relationship Brake Down Series by Mr inappropriate)
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