I may be a little different here but in a relationship with someone, I want all of the little arguments and the communication through the issues. Being goofy together is just a plus. I want those insignificant spats over how I put something on the bed the wrong way or how I folded that towel wrong. I want the picking and the "your pride is too big" fights. Because that translates to me that you are paying attention to me, the details of what I'm doing, you are showing me that you acknowledge that I am with you doing things differently than you.