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What is Love?
A very straight yet complicated question, What is Love ? Is sawaal ke jawaab me naa jaane kitne gaane kavitaye aur shaayari bani hai. Ye one-liners sune hi honge, "Pyaar Zindagi Hai", "Pyaar Ka Dusra Naam Kurbaani Hai", "Pyaar Pooja hai", "Pyaar Meetha Dard Hai", and most popular one "Pyaar Dhoka/Zeher Hai". But haal hi me mujhe ispe ek perspective mila.
I was talking to a friend, whose name is Aseem aur wo apne 6 saal pahle ki ex-girlfriend ke baare me baat kar raha tha and as good friend main uski baate sun raha tha. He told me what he felt when he was in love.
He is decent boy, so aise koi daring moves to try kiya usne but he approached the girl with very friendly attitude, wo dono ek hi couching centre me padhte the to wo ek dusre jo jaate the so it was not that awkward, anyways she might have felt something so she became his girlfriend
Kuch time beeta, wo thode se uneasy zone me the unke liye ye relationship kaafi new tha, he told me that wo ladki thodi si shy behave kar rahi thi but she was trying to open herself with him, usne apne baare me dheere dheere karke share karna start kiya, and my friend who is trying to be gentle with her also told about his likes and dislikes, to make her more comfort he was cracking jokes which helped her to see his goofy side, and maybe that helped her to understand how caring he and I also realised it, "Love is Caring"
Aap jinse pyaar karte ho unke liye aap kuch bhi karne keliye tayaar rahte ho, aapke har alfaaz unke parwaah me hi nikalte hai. aur unke againts kuch bhi sunna galat sa lagta hai.
Ab kuch aur waqt beeta, Wo dono kaafi khush the, everything was going smooth, they were hanging out together, daily talking , sharing every bit of their life, and that's when he found that she has a male best friend who lives in different society now but when they were kids they did schooling together for 7 year. its not a big thing to think but he was jealous about it but he want to be truthful in front of her so he expressed the feeling very gently, ha wo thodi uncomfortable to huwi thi but shaayad use mere dost ki sachaai bhi dikhi to usne bhi normal react kiya hoga. but again some tried to tease her which she handled on her own but that trigger his anger, but he didn't want to make a scene so manage o clam himself. Ispe mujhe ye feel huwa, "Love is the trigger-point of Anger and Jealousy". hum jisne pyaar karte hai usne life me humaare alawa kisi aur ka hona gawara nahi aur jealousy ke chalte humaare andar pyaar ka junoon aur badh jata hai.
Next he told me about what he experienced while he was in relationship. Ab unke relationship ko kuch time ho gaya tha, ab wo dono ki coaching classes me nahi padh rahe the, aur jyada milne bhi nhi ho pata tha to unn dono ne ek dusre ke schedule ko time table yaad kar liya tha, unke friends ab unme semi-friends ban chuke the, aur jab mauka milta tab wo ek dusre se mil bhi lete the. but ab wo mil kar sirf pyaar ki baate nahi kar rahe the, they were sharing issues and problem most of the time koi solution nikalta nahi tha but they give their time to listen to it and understand it aur jawaab me kabhi solution hota to kabhi dilasa ki "Dont Worry Sab Theek Ho Jaayega". jisse mujhe ye feel huwa ki "Love is Understanding each other", hum jinse pyaar karte hai unko samajhna bahut zaruri hota hai, aur ye wahi kar paate hai jinme patience hota hai.
Now he starts to tell me about the problems he faced. Ab unke relationship ko 2 saal ho gaye the, ab unke goals and priorities badal gaye the. Dono kaafi busy rahne lage the. My friend got a job in private sector aur uski girlfriend ANM diploma course kar rahi thi, Ab dono ke beech pahle jitni baate nahi ho rahi thi, aur milna bhi kaafi kam ho gaya tha. wo dono aise mod pe the jaha pyaar kam aur kaam ke pressure ka stress jyada feel kar rahe the. pressure frustration me badalne laga aur frustration choti choti baat pe irritation me. Ye wo waqt tha jab wo dono ke paas ek dusre ke problems sunne keliye time nhi tha, and i started to feel ki ab tak main jin baato ko pyaar samajh raha tha wo pyaar kaha gaya? I asked him to phir "ye tha reason break-up ka? he smiled and said "nahi". Baat bhale hi kam hoti thi par, par ek dusre ke kaam aur time ki wo respect kar rahe the. aur jab milte the tab saari kaam ki baat ko workspace pe hi chod kar aate the. They i got a new answer "Love is respecting each other, hum jinse pyaar karte hai unki soch aur unke kaam to respect karni chahiye.
Now he told about how he felt loneliness while he was in relationship. Jaisa ki Aseem ne pahle bataya ki workload ki wajah se baate kam hogayi, aur milna jhulna bhi kam ho gaya. But kabhi kabhi aisa bhi huwa hai Aseem ke saath,jab kaam kam hota to apni girlfriend se call pe ya messages ke through baat karne ki kosish karta. but wo apne kaam aur studies me busy rahti. aur jab wo free hoti to Janaab khud busy hote. they started to make a crack between them, halaki jab wo baat kar lete to to daraar aur faasle phir se mit jaate par jab jab baat nahi hoti wo dono hi loneliness feel karne lagte aur loneliness sadness me badalne lagti. if got another perspective of Love. Love is the bitter road towards sadness. Jinse hume pyaar ki umeed hoti agar wahi pyaar kaam de, parwaah karna kam karne lage, to hume akelepan ka ahsaas hone lagta hai aur hume rishta toot jaane ka dar sataane lagta hai. Aur Aseem ke saath badkismati se yahi huwa
Aseem ke paas time nahi tha aur uski girlfriend bhi ab kisi dusre state me kaam karne lagi thi. faasle aur kaam dono hi badh gaye the , 1 2 saal tak dono ne kaafi try ki long distance relationship me rahne ki but eventually uski girlfriend ne kaha its not working we should move on, Aseem bhi jyada agrue nhi karta, knew ki jitna force karne baat aur situation utni hi kharaab hogi, and sadly dono ne decide kar kiya ki wo dono ye relationship end kar denge, Aseem ne bataya ki use. regret nhi hai is baat ki wo relationship aage chal nahi paayi but ek guilt hai ki shaayad usne uski Ex-girlfriend ka time waste kiya. I know ye sunne me thoda betuka sa lagta hai, par jo log relationship ki pure shiddad se karte hai, uske tootne se uska zimmedar kaafi hadh tak wo khud ko hi maan lete hai. aur kuch to regret bhi karte jab unhe unka partner cheat kar deta hai... Which proves, " Love is Sweet Pain"
But break-up ke 2 saal baad Aseem move on kar liya if was hard but he started a new chapter in his life, and he accepted ki pichke relationship ke waqt usse galtiya huwi hai but koshish karega ki wo aage na ho. aage se wo aur bhi caring banega, zyada expressive rahega , undivided attention dega aur full supportive rahega. and this gave me the final answer to the question .What is love?
Well, love is the Mixture of every personal emotions. Pyaar sirf jazbaat nahi par ek ladi hai jazbaato ki. Jaha Khushi, Udaasi, Parwaahi, Sharam, Azaadgi, Dard, Dar, Jalan, Gussa, Kamzori, Kurbaani jaise emotions alag alag logo pe alag alag waqt pe.nilalta hai, wahi pyaar me ye saare jazbaat ek saath phut padte hai aur uspe barasne lagta hai jinse hume pyaar ho jata hai. shayad yahi reason hum ki hum pyaar jaisi feeling ko dabaa nhi baate jaise kisi akele emotion ko hum rok lete hai, aur possibly yahi reason hoga ki pyaar itna complicated lagta hai hume.
Main ye nahi kah raha ki yahi pyaar ki defination hai, sabke liye alag matlab hai pyaar ka. To zimmedari ke saath pyaar kariye aur jaaniye What is Love?
I was talking to a friend, whose name is Aseem aur wo apne 6 saal pahle ki ex-girlfriend ke baare me baat kar raha tha and as good friend main uski baate sun raha tha. He told me what he felt when he was in love.
He is decent boy, so aise koi daring moves to try kiya usne but he approached the girl with very friendly attitude, wo dono ek hi couching centre me padhte the to wo ek dusre jo jaate the so it was not that awkward, anyways she might have felt something so she became his girlfriend
Kuch time beeta, wo thode se uneasy zone me the unke liye ye relationship kaafi new tha, he told me that wo ladki thodi si shy behave kar rahi thi but she was trying to open herself with him, usne apne baare me dheere dheere karke share karna start kiya, and my friend who is trying to be gentle with her also told about his likes and dislikes, to make her more comfort he was cracking jokes which helped her to see his goofy side, and maybe that helped her to understand how caring he and I also realised it, "Love is Caring"
Aap jinse pyaar karte ho unke liye aap kuch bhi karne keliye tayaar rahte ho, aapke har alfaaz unke parwaah me hi nikalte hai. aur unke againts kuch bhi sunna galat sa lagta hai.
Ab kuch aur waqt beeta, Wo dono kaafi khush the, everything was going smooth, they were hanging out together, daily talking , sharing every bit of their life, and that's when he found that she has a male best friend who lives in different society now but when they were kids they did schooling together for 7 year. its not a big thing to think but he was jealous about it but he want to be truthful in front of her so he expressed the feeling very gently, ha wo thodi uncomfortable to huwi thi but shaayad use mere dost ki sachaai bhi dikhi to usne bhi normal react kiya hoga. but again some tried to tease her which she handled on her own but that trigger his anger, but he didn't want to make a scene so manage o clam himself. Ispe mujhe ye feel huwa, "Love is the trigger-point of Anger and Jealousy". hum jisne pyaar karte hai usne life me humaare alawa kisi aur ka hona gawara nahi aur jealousy ke chalte humaare andar pyaar ka junoon aur badh jata hai.
Next he told me about what he experienced while he was in relationship. Ab unke relationship ko kuch time ho gaya tha, ab wo dono ki coaching classes me nahi padh rahe the, aur jyada milne bhi nhi ho pata tha to unn dono ne ek dusre ke schedule ko time table yaad kar liya tha, unke friends ab unme semi-friends ban chuke the, aur jab mauka milta tab wo ek dusre se mil bhi lete the. but ab wo mil kar sirf pyaar ki baate nahi kar rahe the, they were sharing issues and problem most of the time koi solution nikalta nahi tha but they give their time to listen to it and understand it aur jawaab me kabhi solution hota to kabhi dilasa ki "Dont Worry Sab Theek Ho Jaayega". jisse mujhe ye feel huwa ki "Love is Understanding each other", hum jinse pyaar karte hai unko samajhna bahut zaruri hota hai, aur ye wahi kar paate hai jinme patience hota hai.
Now he starts to tell me about the problems he faced. Ab unke relationship ko 2 saal ho gaye the, ab unke goals and priorities badal gaye the. Dono kaafi busy rahne lage the. My friend got a job in private sector aur uski girlfriend ANM diploma course kar rahi thi, Ab dono ke beech pahle jitni baate nahi ho rahi thi, aur milna bhi kaafi kam ho gaya tha. wo dono aise mod pe the jaha pyaar kam aur kaam ke pressure ka stress jyada feel kar rahe the. pressure frustration me badalne laga aur frustration choti choti baat pe irritation me. Ye wo waqt tha jab wo dono ke paas ek dusre ke problems sunne keliye time nhi tha, and i started to feel ki ab tak main jin baato ko pyaar samajh raha tha wo pyaar kaha gaya? I asked him to phir "ye tha reason break-up ka? he smiled and said "nahi". Baat bhale hi kam hoti thi par, par ek dusre ke kaam aur time ki wo respect kar rahe the. aur jab milte the tab saari kaam ki baat ko workspace pe hi chod kar aate the. They i got a new answer "Love is respecting each other, hum jinse pyaar karte hai unki soch aur unke kaam to respect karni chahiye.
Now he told about how he felt loneliness while he was in relationship. Jaisa ki Aseem ne pahle bataya ki workload ki wajah se baate kam hogayi, aur milna jhulna bhi kam ho gaya. But kabhi kabhi aisa bhi huwa hai Aseem ke saath,jab kaam kam hota to apni girlfriend se call pe ya messages ke through baat karne ki kosish karta. but wo apne kaam aur studies me busy rahti. aur jab wo free hoti to Janaab khud busy hote. they started to make a crack between them, halaki jab wo baat kar lete to to daraar aur faasle phir se mit jaate par jab jab baat nahi hoti wo dono hi loneliness feel karne lagte aur loneliness sadness me badalne lagti. if got another perspective of Love. Love is the bitter road towards sadness. Jinse hume pyaar ki umeed hoti agar wahi pyaar kaam de, parwaah karna kam karne lage, to hume akelepan ka ahsaas hone lagta hai aur hume rishta toot jaane ka dar sataane lagta hai. Aur Aseem ke saath badkismati se yahi huwa
Aseem ke paas time nahi tha aur uski girlfriend bhi ab kisi dusre state me kaam karne lagi thi. faasle aur kaam dono hi badh gaye the , 1 2 saal tak dono ne kaafi try ki long distance relationship me rahne ki but eventually uski girlfriend ne kaha its not working we should move on, Aseem bhi jyada agrue nhi karta, knew ki jitna force karne baat aur situation utni hi kharaab hogi, and sadly dono ne decide kar kiya ki wo dono ye relationship end kar denge, Aseem ne bataya ki use. regret nhi hai is baat ki wo relationship aage chal nahi paayi but ek guilt hai ki shaayad usne uski Ex-girlfriend ka time waste kiya. I know ye sunne me thoda betuka sa lagta hai, par jo log relationship ki pure shiddad se karte hai, uske tootne se uska zimmedar kaafi hadh tak wo khud ko hi maan lete hai. aur kuch to regret bhi karte jab unhe unka partner cheat kar deta hai... Which proves, " Love is Sweet Pain"
But break-up ke 2 saal baad Aseem move on kar liya if was hard but he started a new chapter in his life, and he accepted ki pichke relationship ke waqt usse galtiya huwi hai but koshish karega ki wo aage na ho. aage se wo aur bhi caring banega, zyada expressive rahega , undivided attention dega aur full supportive rahega. and this gave me the final answer to the question .What is love?
Well, love is the Mixture of every personal emotions. Pyaar sirf jazbaat nahi par ek ladi hai jazbaato ki. Jaha Khushi, Udaasi, Parwaahi, Sharam, Azaadgi, Dard, Dar, Jalan, Gussa, Kamzori, Kurbaani jaise emotions alag alag logo pe alag alag waqt pe.nilalta hai, wahi pyaar me ye saare jazbaat ek saath phut padte hai aur uspe barasne lagta hai jinse hume pyaar ho jata hai. shayad yahi reason hum ki hum pyaar jaisi feeling ko dabaa nhi baate jaise kisi akele emotion ko hum rok lete hai, aur possibly yahi reason hoga ki pyaar itna complicated lagta hai hume.
Main ye nahi kah raha ki yahi pyaar ki defination hai, sabke liye alag matlab hai pyaar ka. To zimmedari ke saath pyaar kariye aur jaaniye What is Love?
