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Ungrateful people
Everyone becomes more or less ungrateful under the pressure of various events of life. If you remember the events of the past week, you will find at least one incident where a man helped you but instead you did not have the opportunity to give him the respect or thanks he deserved.
In some cases, not being able to express gratitude will make you ungrateful. But there are some people who are ungrateful everywhere. These people think that it is their right to get help from others and therefore there is no question of thanking that person. Again, personal problems can cause a person to become temporarily ungrateful. It is difficult to tell the difference between these two types of people.
There are several possible ways to recognize ungrateful people -----
1) Satisfaction : No matter how good the lives of ungrateful people, they can never be happy. No matter how much they receive in life, there is no limit to their needs. They are always trying to achieve something. Trying to be successful in life is usually a good thing. But it is never a good idea not to appreciate what you have, not to be thankful for it.
2) Violence : When these people see the achievements of others, they begin to hope for themselves. But that is not in the eyes of inspiration. They always compare their lives with others. They wallow in their sadness and thus, experience more failure.
3) Irritable mood : Ungrateful people get angry easily. They are angry about an incident that happened a long time ago. Again, something is happening at the moment that can dislike his mood.
4) Negative Expectations : Most of the ungrateful people have suffered or are still suffering from some major mental distress in the past. Because of these past experiences they lose the courage to expect anything positive. Their idea is that nothing good can ever happen to him.
5) There is no end to their demands : Most people are reluctant to ask others for anything. But ungrateful people do not have this problem. They can easily ask for something from others. And there is no end to their demands. They always need something. Their idea is that they owe you their support, so you don't have to thank them for it. Maybe they did something good for you once, now they will take 10 benefits from you. And if for some reason you can't help or help them, they won't let you forget it.
6) They are not concerned about others : Selfishness is created out of ingratitude. Others will do it for them, which is normal for them, so they do not pay attention to how much sacrifice others have to make to do those benefits. Because it can never be the cause of their headaches.
7) There is no time for other than one's own needs : These people communicate with someone only when they need something from that person. They don't meet anyone just to talk, to spend time together. They don't even feel the need to search by message. Their idea is that they will always have you by their side.
8) They are always Victims : They pretend to be victims. People who are ungrateful to their thoughts always think of themselves as victims. They are in the worst trouble in the world. If you complain about something, they will cite many examples where their situation was worse. And if you show them sympathy or the way to a solution then they will not take it into account.
HOW TO HANDLE UNGRATEFUL PEOPLE
Ungrateful people have a negative impact on anyone's life. Gratitude is never negative. If you spend most of your time with people like that, life can be overwhelming. So here are some ways to handle them :
• Expressing your feelings : It may not be easy, but if a friend or family member behaves ungratefully, you must express your feelings face to face. You have to say how bad you feel because of it. But the problem is that ungrateful people will not realize anything even after hearing these words.
But caring for that person is a different matter. In this case, it is better to wait for the time. One should try to understand whether he is behaving like this for any special reason. Take the time and opportunity to talk to him honestly. Explain in a nice, steady way how you feel about those behaviors. Complaints or faults will not benefit in this case. Don't underestimate the value of your work, as if he were buying it for you. Give it a chance to apologize. But keep in mind that they may not be able to do that.
• Seeing in their eyes : In this situation, try to understand for yourself whether he is showing such ungrateful attitude due to any of your actions.
No matter how much you think you have done nothing, still review their point of view in a cold head. Try to understand if there is any special reason for ungrateful behavior in a friend or family member. This use may be temporary. She may be having a hard time, and she is trying to cope. And this time maybe he wants you by his side in return for not doing anything. So we have to try to understand whether they are like this or the matter is temporary.
• Create Boundaries : If you like or care for someone who is ungrateful, create a boundary between yourself and him or her and what you will do with it.
DO'S AND DON'TS FOR HIM
Whenever you can draw a line, stick to it. It may be difficult, and they may even try to break that boundary. But you have to keep this boundary until your case is clear to them.
Take a step back — If someone in your life is always ungrateful, and even after taking the above steps, there is no solution, you need to re-evaluate your relationship with that person. It may be that you decide not to spend time alone with him. Or it may not be related to him anymore. You just have to be more discriminating with the help you render toward other people. Dealing with ungrateful people is not an easy task. However, if their behavior has a very negative effect on your life, it is better for you to avoid them.
Be honest with yourself, be kind to others. You will see that life is very beautiful.
© Dr. Tulika Sarkar
In some cases, not being able to express gratitude will make you ungrateful. But there are some people who are ungrateful everywhere. These people think that it is their right to get help from others and therefore there is no question of thanking that person. Again, personal problems can cause a person to become temporarily ungrateful. It is difficult to tell the difference between these two types of people.
There are several possible ways to recognize ungrateful people -----
1) Satisfaction : No matter how good the lives of ungrateful people, they can never be happy. No matter how much they receive in life, there is no limit to their needs. They are always trying to achieve something. Trying to be successful in life is usually a good thing. But it is never a good idea not to appreciate what you have, not to be thankful for it.
2) Violence : When these people see the achievements of others, they begin to hope for themselves. But that is not in the eyes of inspiration. They always compare their lives with others. They wallow in their sadness and thus, experience more failure.
3) Irritable mood : Ungrateful people get angry easily. They are angry about an incident that happened a long time ago. Again, something is happening at the moment that can dislike his mood.
4) Negative Expectations : Most of the ungrateful people have suffered or are still suffering from some major mental distress in the past. Because of these past experiences they lose the courage to expect anything positive. Their idea is that nothing good can ever happen to him.
5) There is no end to their demands : Most people are reluctant to ask others for anything. But ungrateful people do not have this problem. They can easily ask for something from others. And there is no end to their demands. They always need something. Their idea is that they owe you their support, so you don't have to thank them for it. Maybe they did something good for you once, now they will take 10 benefits from you. And if for some reason you can't help or help them, they won't let you forget it.
6) They are not concerned about others : Selfishness is created out of ingratitude. Others will do it for them, which is normal for them, so they do not pay attention to how much sacrifice others have to make to do those benefits. Because it can never be the cause of their headaches.
7) There is no time for other than one's own needs : These people communicate with someone only when they need something from that person. They don't meet anyone just to talk, to spend time together. They don't even feel the need to search by message. Their idea is that they will always have you by their side.
8) They are always Victims : They pretend to be victims. People who are ungrateful to their thoughts always think of themselves as victims. They are in the worst trouble in the world. If you complain about something, they will cite many examples where their situation was worse. And if you show them sympathy or the way to a solution then they will not take it into account.
HOW TO HANDLE UNGRATEFUL PEOPLE
Ungrateful people have a negative impact on anyone's life. Gratitude is never negative. If you spend most of your time with people like that, life can be overwhelming. So here are some ways to handle them :
• Expressing your feelings : It may not be easy, but if a friend or family member behaves ungratefully, you must express your feelings face to face. You have to say how bad you feel because of it. But the problem is that ungrateful people will not realize anything even after hearing these words.
But caring for that person is a different matter. In this case, it is better to wait for the time. One should try to understand whether he is behaving like this for any special reason. Take the time and opportunity to talk to him honestly. Explain in a nice, steady way how you feel about those behaviors. Complaints or faults will not benefit in this case. Don't underestimate the value of your work, as if he were buying it for you. Give it a chance to apologize. But keep in mind that they may not be able to do that.
• Seeing in their eyes : In this situation, try to understand for yourself whether he is showing such ungrateful attitude due to any of your actions.
No matter how much you think you have done nothing, still review their point of view in a cold head. Try to understand if there is any special reason for ungrateful behavior in a friend or family member. This use may be temporary. She may be having a hard time, and she is trying to cope. And this time maybe he wants you by his side in return for not doing anything. So we have to try to understand whether they are like this or the matter is temporary.
• Create Boundaries : If you like or care for someone who is ungrateful, create a boundary between yourself and him or her and what you will do with it.
DO'S AND DON'TS FOR HIM
Whenever you can draw a line, stick to it. It may be difficult, and they may even try to break that boundary. But you have to keep this boundary until your case is clear to them.
Take a step back — If someone in your life is always ungrateful, and even after taking the above steps, there is no solution, you need to re-evaluate your relationship with that person. It may be that you decide not to spend time alone with him. Or it may not be related to him anymore. You just have to be more discriminating with the help you render toward other people. Dealing with ungrateful people is not an easy task. However, if their behavior has a very negative effect on your life, it is better for you to avoid them.
Be honest with yourself, be kind to others. You will see that life is very beautiful.
© Dr. Tulika Sarkar
