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after marriage what next?
After the wedding what next?
You don marry your dream man or wife, wetin remain abi, but I have one question for you, if you buy a new car, after a year or two if you don't service it what happens?
The car may be an eyesore in lesser periods than that if not properly maintained, same with love it is are emotion,one can stop feeling, it as an expression that can be killed. If not nurtured it fades! Yes I said what I said!!
You can be a good child of God and be a Bad spouse or/and parent.
This morning
Let me explain,love is a pregnancy of neutral feelings, it is like cooking moi-moi elemi meje, the ingredients are at your discretion yet it must be visible and tasted must be seen and felt let's not forget perceived.
Now in love, you have friendship, championship, intimacy, communication, communion, agreement, understanding, devotion, forgiveness, mentorship,and so on " and *commitment to each other visions* " this is the main ingredient, others may want but you see commitment to each other visions is the basics, then you can judge if the man or lady is worth walking up and down the isle, we should not forget sex, sex is an integral part of love but is not intimacy!
You marrying a pastor doesn't make he superhuman, or a good person, she sings like an angel doesn't make her a good wife or mother!
Truth be said we have our flaws and inadequacies but there's some imbalances that marriage will reflect..if a woman is carefree about life, the life of her husband and children are is massive danger, when the head of the family can not pray, ehn the home is in trouble....
Preparation in marriage!
Update coming up!
Background reflectors, are what couples are in marriage, they come into marriage with the interpretation of who marriage was to them growing up and before marriage, listen to me, wedding is the ceremony,so it has to be prefect for you and your spouse, but my darling marriage isn't about perfection, it is not like your makeup or hair cut, you can take it off or put it on as you like, marrying right is important but stay with your decision is most importanter, daddy woli, you cannot always be right, you're married for a reason, all the decisions does not have to have your ident on them.
Mummy wa, you can pray from dawn to dusk and fast all year round but your children can't ask questions or Confide in you, because the at their first appearance you yell them down, killing their self confidence, then you send them forth with beating because the bible says "spare the rod and spoil the child"
Your husband will come from work and still fix himself dinner, because you have a progressions of programs to attend as the national good women leader!
You can't call your husband pet names because you now have children, you have money now, your husband is now "this man" or daddy tade etc
Erm daddy we see you ooh it is only when you are broke that you need your wife's counsel, after all she just a woman, she doesn't work so her life and dreams should be you and your children, that land your bought two years ago it was your friend that followed you there to check it, you even gave him the deed so that your wife will not know you have money. The feeding allowance is 30k monthly even after they increased your salary, it is times ten of what your father gave your mother for a year when you were a child, you can't just stand her talking about her day so you fake sleep, you watch her struggle with the kids on bike taking them to school but your car can be used for rural rugged.
When was the last time you made your hair, tickled his fancy, got him gift, cooked for him his favorite meal, when was the last time you sent him a romantic message, when last did you look sexy for him after honeymoon, the honey was left in the moon abi? you came back to earth where romance is in coma abi?, Sir, when last did you take her out, or went on vacation, got her a gift. With all this wahala, my brother and sister, there is fire on the mountain, they might look like no issue at all, but this are ingredients that kills love in marriage, marriage is making conscious effort to be in agreement with your spouse again your logical and emotional reasoning
© RUBEE
You don marry your dream man or wife, wetin remain abi, but I have one question for you, if you buy a new car, after a year or two if you don't service it what happens?
The car may be an eyesore in lesser periods than that if not properly maintained, same with love it is are emotion,one can stop feeling, it as an expression that can be killed. If not nurtured it fades! Yes I said what I said!!
You can be a good child of God and be a Bad spouse or/and parent.
This morning
Let me explain,love is a pregnancy of neutral feelings, it is like cooking moi-moi elemi meje, the ingredients are at your discretion yet it must be visible and tasted must be seen and felt let's not forget perceived.
Now in love, you have friendship, championship, intimacy, communication, communion, agreement, understanding, devotion, forgiveness, mentorship,and so on " and *commitment to each other visions* " this is the main ingredient, others may want but you see commitment to each other visions is the basics, then you can judge if the man or lady is worth walking up and down the isle, we should not forget sex, sex is an integral part of love but is not intimacy!
You marrying a pastor doesn't make he superhuman, or a good person, she sings like an angel doesn't make her a good wife or mother!
Truth be said we have our flaws and inadequacies but there's some imbalances that marriage will reflect..if a woman is carefree about life, the life of her husband and children are is massive danger, when the head of the family can not pray, ehn the home is in trouble....
Preparation in marriage!
Update coming up!
Background reflectors, are what couples are in marriage, they come into marriage with the interpretation of who marriage was to them growing up and before marriage, listen to me, wedding is the ceremony,so it has to be prefect for you and your spouse, but my darling marriage isn't about perfection, it is not like your makeup or hair cut, you can take it off or put it on as you like, marrying right is important but stay with your decision is most importanter, daddy woli, you cannot always be right, you're married for a reason, all the decisions does not have to have your ident on them.
Mummy wa, you can pray from dawn to dusk and fast all year round but your children can't ask questions or Confide in you, because the at their first appearance you yell them down, killing their self confidence, then you send them forth with beating because the bible says "spare the rod and spoil the child"
Your husband will come from work and still fix himself dinner, because you have a progressions of programs to attend as the national good women leader!
You can't call your husband pet names because you now have children, you have money now, your husband is now "this man" or daddy tade etc
Erm daddy we see you ooh it is only when you are broke that you need your wife's counsel, after all she just a woman, she doesn't work so her life and dreams should be you and your children, that land your bought two years ago it was your friend that followed you there to check it, you even gave him the deed so that your wife will not know you have money. The feeding allowance is 30k monthly even after they increased your salary, it is times ten of what your father gave your mother for a year when you were a child, you can't just stand her talking about her day so you fake sleep, you watch her struggle with the kids on bike taking them to school but your car can be used for rural rugged.
When was the last time you made your hair, tickled his fancy, got him gift, cooked for him his favorite meal, when was the last time you sent him a romantic message, when last did you look sexy for him after honeymoon, the honey was left in the moon abi? you came back to earth where romance is in coma abi?, Sir, when last did you take her out, or went on vacation, got her a gift. With all this wahala, my brother and sister, there is fire on the mountain, they might look like no issue at all, but this are ingredients that kills love in marriage, marriage is making conscious effort to be in agreement with your spouse again your logical and emotional reasoning
© RUBEE
