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"The Weight of Character: A Woman's Diary"
She was crying, sitting in her room alone, asking, "Why only me?" Crying without sound, her heart ached; she couldn't even breathe properly. After some time, she wiped away her tears, and a sudden thought trapped her. She sat at her study table and began writing in her diary.
She wrote: "After crying for hours, I realized it is not only me; it’s about all women. Men are aligned to uphold patriarchy in society, but women have adopted it so thoroughly that they have become more patriarchal than men. I realized that women think that if they stand on their own, they can change the world. But that’s not it. What about the dignity of the woman who is a housewife? She is only expected to do household chores and is not encouraged to share her opinions; her thoughts don’t seem to matter.
In this society, if any woman has had relationships before marriage, she is labeled as characterless by men who have had multiple relationships themselves. Why shouldn’t they be called the same? What’s the difference? Women should also have the right to explore before marriage so they can understand what they want in a partner and why someone might not be perfect for them. This understanding could help them avoid social evils like domestic violence.
More than men, women are often the ones to label other women as characterless. Men often view women as objects. If you listen to conversations between two men, you’ll understand this. Not all men are the same, but almost 99% of men uphold patriarchal views. A girl might be told that since her sister had multiple relationships in the past, she is characterless; however, no one will say the same about her brother.
Why is this so? Why are only women given character certificates? Why are women expected to maintain all dignity? Who is issuing these character certificates? Every woman should reflect on this at least once. The world is becoming more modern day by day, but what about our thinking? It’s not just about modernity; it’s about the mentality that has been nurtured for years."
As she paused in her writing, a sense of clarity washed over her. She realized that change begins with awareness and courage. With renewed determination, she penned down her next thoughts: "Perhaps it’s time for us to redefine what it means to be a woman in this society. We must support each other rather than tear each other down. We need to create spaces where every woman feels valued—where her voice matters regardless of her marital status or past relationships.
I envision a future where young girls grow up knowing their worth isn’t determined by societal standards but by their own beliefs and aspirations. A future where they can explore love without fear of judgment and can express themselves freely without being labeled.
As I close my diary tonight, I pledge to be part of this change. I will speak up against injustice and support my fellow women in their journeys. Together, we can dismantle the chains of patriarchy that bind us—not just for ourselves but for generations to come."
© Stuti Trivedi
She wrote: "After crying for hours, I realized it is not only me; it’s about all women. Men are aligned to uphold patriarchy in society, but women have adopted it so thoroughly that they have become more patriarchal than men. I realized that women think that if they stand on their own, they can change the world. But that’s not it. What about the dignity of the woman who is a housewife? She is only expected to do household chores and is not encouraged to share her opinions; her thoughts don’t seem to matter.
In this society, if any woman has had relationships before marriage, she is labeled as characterless by men who have had multiple relationships themselves. Why shouldn’t they be called the same? What’s the difference? Women should also have the right to explore before marriage so they can understand what they want in a partner and why someone might not be perfect for them. This understanding could help them avoid social evils like domestic violence.
More than men, women are often the ones to label other women as characterless. Men often view women as objects. If you listen to conversations between two men, you’ll understand this. Not all men are the same, but almost 99% of men uphold patriarchal views. A girl might be told that since her sister had multiple relationships in the past, she is characterless; however, no one will say the same about her brother.
Why is this so? Why are only women given character certificates? Why are women expected to maintain all dignity? Who is issuing these character certificates? Every woman should reflect on this at least once. The world is becoming more modern day by day, but what about our thinking? It’s not just about modernity; it’s about the mentality that has been nurtured for years."
As she paused in her writing, a sense of clarity washed over her. She realized that change begins with awareness and courage. With renewed determination, she penned down her next thoughts: "Perhaps it’s time for us to redefine what it means to be a woman in this society. We must support each other rather than tear each other down. We need to create spaces where every woman feels valued—where her voice matters regardless of her marital status or past relationships.
I envision a future where young girls grow up knowing their worth isn’t determined by societal standards but by their own beliefs and aspirations. A future where they can explore love without fear of judgment and can express themselves freely without being labeled.
As I close my diary tonight, I pledge to be part of this change. I will speak up against injustice and support my fellow women in their journeys. Together, we can dismantle the chains of patriarchy that bind us—not just for ourselves but for generations to come."
© Stuti Trivedi
