Is it wrong of me?!
Here is a question, is it wrong me, a Disability Advocate to wish that my children aren't Disabled like myself?! I mean, as a mother you want only want is best for child and while my disability have been a blessing, they have also been a burden. For example, my hearing loss has help me turn from being a shy bullied person into a strong willed, very opinionated and stubburd person for which I am grateful. But, my hearing loss still causes me grief, I still get bullied by my teachers and classmates, so it so wrong of me to wish that my children aren't Disabled?! In a way, by saying that I don't want to have Disabled Children makes a hypocrite, as a disabled person, I know from personal experience what will come if they are Disabled. Like bullying in school by both your peers and teachers, or your parents feeling embarrassed of you while in public because of so-called "Behavior" whether that be an outburst or you doing something "inappropriate" you know that your parents are going to feel embarrassed or humiliated by it. Now, I understand that their proud parents of Disabled Children and Overprotective parents of Disabled Children, but how many of them are disabled themselve?! Not, am I terrified of the idea of having a Disabled Child, I also don't know if I can handle it mentally or emotionally thanks to my own trauma and that idea or knowing that about myself makes feel worse than wishing for my children not to be Disabled. Like, the idea of a child or even a parent that needs 24/7 care I can't handle because of my childhood trauma! Seeing my father need intensive care after surgery, my babysitter going from being high-funtioning to needing to be fed and having to wear diapers within a matter weeks and my grandmother going from being completely independent to dead within a short few years has made come to the realization that I can't have a child that will need the same care! Now, I know things aren't within our control and that the world wants to throw you curveballs, but I am faced with those curveballs from the very beginning am I or is it wrong of me to abort!? Knowing, what I know about myself that emotionally and mentally I wouldn't be abled to handle it. Adoption and...