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The Right One
Hume pyaar kisi se bhi ho sakta hai, right?...
Most of the time, hum khud se imagined kiye huwe perfect life-partner ke attributes ko plan karke rakhte hai, but hume jab kisi se pyaar hota hai toh ye qualities aur attributes zyada important nahi lagte. Hum bas unka pyaar aur attention pana hi important lagta hai.
But my question is, do we know if he/she is the right one? Aur jinse hume pyaar huwa hai, wo kya sach me hume bhi pyaar karte hai?
Humaare friend circle me hi humne kisi na kisi ki beautifully sculpted love moments sun rakhe hai, par hume pyaar kam aur ek tarfa desperation aur efforts dikhta hai, ek lovely couple nahi... Hum unhe warn karne ki koshish bhi karte hai, par wo humaare aise reaction se offended feel karte hai. Kuch log argue karte hai, try to prove that they are actually an unique couple... Par kuch log chup ho jaate hai, because they know what is happening in their relationship.
Ye jitna sad hai, utna hi scary ki pyaar huwa, izhaar huwa, dono relationship me toh aa gaye, but ab ye relationship ka bojh sirf ek bandi/banda utha raha hai. Sara time wo tantrums jhel rahe hai, bina sar-pair ke jhagde kar rahe hai, regret feel bhi kar rahe hai, but chhod kar jana bhi nahi chahte because they love them from the deepest of their heart. Aur iska faida inke partners/MCs lete rahte hai because they also know ki inke partners ro dho kar bhi kahin nahi jaane waale... But eventually, ye partners/MCs swaad anusaar kisi aur ka apna bf/gf bana lete hai aur current bf/gf ko aise break up kar lete hai jaise idiot bosses apne hard-working employees ko. Unka sara pyaar, sare efforts unforgettable regret me badal jate hai jo lifetime ke liye haunt karte hai, ye aisa accident hai jiske scars use aur uski care karne wale sabhi members ko disturb karte hai.
But again, question ab bhi wahi hai - how do we know who is the right one?
Aisa mera manna hai ki pyaar dikhaaya nahi, jyada jataya jata hai.
Haan, ye nayi baat nahi hai, par aksar log yahi dhoka kha jaate hai. Hume lagta hai jo compliments dete hai, humse flirt karte hai, humse roz baatein karte hai, roz haal chaal puchte hai, wo humse pyaar karte hai...
But sach toh ye hai, jo door hokar bhi hume pyaar karte hai, wo hume compliments bhi dete hai aur waqt aane par criticism bhi. Kabhi flirt bhi karte hai, par gussa dikha kar haq bhi jatate hai. Wo humse haal chaal ke saath dil me chal rahi baat bina bataye samajh lete hai. Yahi wo hai jo humse pyaar karte hai.
Sadly, hume aksar wo sacha pyaar ek comfort-zone jaisa lagne lagta hai jaha unke saath aap ek bacche sa ban jaate hai aur dikhawe wala pyaar taj mahal jaisa lagta hai, jo har tarah se sundar lagta hai, par aap sundarta ki khoj me waha akele ho jaate hai.
Ye samajhna bahut zaroori hai ki pyaar me dikhaawa nahi, achi niyat zaroori hoti hai. Jaha kisi ek ki niyat badli, wahi se relationship bikharne lagti hai. Saath hokar bhi adhurepan ka ehsaas hone lagta hai, acche palo me bhi ek ajeeb si mayusi feel hoti hai.
Jaha niyat achi hoti hai, waha pyaar samundar ki chhoti chhoti lahro ki tarah relation ki ship ko kinaare ki aur le jata hai, har pal ek kisse me badal jata hai. Khushiyon ki baarish ho ya dukhon ka pahaad, sab saath baant lete hai. Naraazgi bhi hoti hai, par ek dusre ke liye izzat bhi hoti hai.
It's impossible to distinguish who is right, but it's never too late to understand whose intentions are good and whose are not. Jab bhi aap aisa feel karo ki aapki baat ki izzat nahi ho rahi, aapke efforts par baar baar questions uth rahe ho, it's better to leave them. They don’t deserve you, at least not now.
Do you agree? Have you found the right one?
© Sudeb
Most of the time, hum khud se imagined kiye huwe perfect life-partner ke attributes ko plan karke rakhte hai, but hume jab kisi se pyaar hota hai toh ye qualities aur attributes zyada important nahi lagte. Hum bas unka pyaar aur attention pana hi important lagta hai.
But my question is, do we know if he/she is the right one? Aur jinse hume pyaar huwa hai, wo kya sach me hume bhi pyaar karte hai?
Humaare friend circle me hi humne kisi na kisi ki beautifully sculpted love moments sun rakhe hai, par hume pyaar kam aur ek tarfa desperation aur efforts dikhta hai, ek lovely couple nahi... Hum unhe warn karne ki koshish bhi karte hai, par wo humaare aise reaction se offended feel karte hai. Kuch log argue karte hai, try to prove that they are actually an unique couple... Par kuch log chup ho jaate hai, because they know what is happening in their relationship.
Ye jitna sad hai, utna hi scary ki pyaar huwa, izhaar huwa, dono relationship me toh aa gaye, but ab ye relationship ka bojh sirf ek bandi/banda utha raha hai. Sara time wo tantrums jhel rahe hai, bina sar-pair ke jhagde kar rahe hai, regret feel bhi kar rahe hai, but chhod kar jana bhi nahi chahte because they love them from the deepest of their heart. Aur iska faida inke partners/MCs lete rahte hai because they also know ki inke partners ro dho kar bhi kahin nahi jaane waale... But eventually, ye partners/MCs swaad anusaar kisi aur ka apna bf/gf bana lete hai aur current bf/gf ko aise break up kar lete hai jaise idiot bosses apne hard-working employees ko. Unka sara pyaar, sare efforts unforgettable regret me badal jate hai jo lifetime ke liye haunt karte hai, ye aisa accident hai jiske scars use aur uski care karne wale sabhi members ko disturb karte hai.
But again, question ab bhi wahi hai - how do we know who is the right one?
Aisa mera manna hai ki pyaar dikhaaya nahi, jyada jataya jata hai.
Haan, ye nayi baat nahi hai, par aksar log yahi dhoka kha jaate hai. Hume lagta hai jo compliments dete hai, humse flirt karte hai, humse roz baatein karte hai, roz haal chaal puchte hai, wo humse pyaar karte hai...
But sach toh ye hai, jo door hokar bhi hume pyaar karte hai, wo hume compliments bhi dete hai aur waqt aane par criticism bhi. Kabhi flirt bhi karte hai, par gussa dikha kar haq bhi jatate hai. Wo humse haal chaal ke saath dil me chal rahi baat bina bataye samajh lete hai. Yahi wo hai jo humse pyaar karte hai.
Sadly, hume aksar wo sacha pyaar ek comfort-zone jaisa lagne lagta hai jaha unke saath aap ek bacche sa ban jaate hai aur dikhawe wala pyaar taj mahal jaisa lagta hai, jo har tarah se sundar lagta hai, par aap sundarta ki khoj me waha akele ho jaate hai.
Ye samajhna bahut zaroori hai ki pyaar me dikhaawa nahi, achi niyat zaroori hoti hai. Jaha kisi ek ki niyat badli, wahi se relationship bikharne lagti hai. Saath hokar bhi adhurepan ka ehsaas hone lagta hai, acche palo me bhi ek ajeeb si mayusi feel hoti hai.
Jaha niyat achi hoti hai, waha pyaar samundar ki chhoti chhoti lahro ki tarah relation ki ship ko kinaare ki aur le jata hai, har pal ek kisse me badal jata hai. Khushiyon ki baarish ho ya dukhon ka pahaad, sab saath baant lete hai. Naraazgi bhi hoti hai, par ek dusre ke liye izzat bhi hoti hai.
It's impossible to distinguish who is right, but it's never too late to understand whose intentions are good and whose are not. Jab bhi aap aisa feel karo ki aapki baat ki izzat nahi ho rahi, aapke efforts par baar baar questions uth rahe ho, it's better to leave them. They don’t deserve you, at least not now.
Do you agree? Have you found the right one?
© Sudeb
