The Ideal Kid
Recently I found a real life story where a girl was involved in some shady business. When her parents came to know about it they disgraced her and asked her to leave the house.
That's the brief.
Now what the girl said is important here.
She said, " My parents used to pressurise me too much. When I was young I didn't understand it. I was afraid of them and so I did everything they asked me to, making them believe that I'm a 'good' girl that they've always wanted. I wanted to do things differently, I had my own interests my own dreams. But I knew that these will never be accepted.
So when my parents found out about my shady business, I knew this was the perfect time to move away from them.
If even for once they had told me to stop doing it because of my safety, I would have happily quit and live with them. But all they said was that I am a disgrace and a Stigma to their family,that they couldn't believe how their 'good' daughter can do this."
These are not the exact words she said. I've written here in my language. But there's no change in the messege or meaning of her words.
Do you see what happened here?
Someone's dear daughter, 'good' daughter, doesn't even care about the bad stuff she's doing, but is happy to finally have the opportunity to be freed from her parents control.
It's almost every child's story unfortunately, especially in our Asian countries or families where parents support their children until they are settled.
Again, not every family is like this, but, if you know what I mean, you know it.
This girl's case can be considered huge, but even when such is not the situation, parents react like this on every little disobedience or annoyance from their children.
And like she said, kids...
That's the brief.
Now what the girl said is important here.
She said, " My parents used to pressurise me too much. When I was young I didn't understand it. I was afraid of them and so I did everything they asked me to, making them believe that I'm a 'good' girl that they've always wanted. I wanted to do things differently, I had my own interests my own dreams. But I knew that these will never be accepted.
So when my parents found out about my shady business, I knew this was the perfect time to move away from them.
If even for once they had told me to stop doing it because of my safety, I would have happily quit and live with them. But all they said was that I am a disgrace and a Stigma to their family,that they couldn't believe how their 'good' daughter can do this."
These are not the exact words she said. I've written here in my language. But there's no change in the messege or meaning of her words.
Do you see what happened here?
Someone's dear daughter, 'good' daughter, doesn't even care about the bad stuff she's doing, but is happy to finally have the opportunity to be freed from her parents control.
It's almost every child's story unfortunately, especially in our Asian countries or families where parents support their children until they are settled.
Again, not every family is like this, but, if you know what I mean, you know it.
This girl's case can be considered huge, but even when such is not the situation, parents react like this on every little disobedience or annoyance from their children.
And like she said, kids...