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Forgiveness
Let them pardon and forgive. Do you not love to be forgiven by Allah? And Allah is All-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Al_Quran)
we are living in imperfect world.Allah SWT has intentionally created human beings as flawed and imperfect,so that He can test us.We are social animals as we interect and make friends we tend to build certain expectations from these people.We want things to go the way we want .As people are different and flawed in their own unique ways , our expectations are bound to be betrayed.Interaction with people can be constant source of emotional turmoil.It is likely that they are going to hurt us sooner or later.our response to such reaction are most crucial as It's not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us.
Most of the times when we get hurt,we tend to respond by anger and hatred.The problem with these responses are that these are shallow and backfire almost all the time.With hatred and agony we are giving the offender direct access to our mind and thoughts, which Will haunt us even more.Keeping hatred and grudges in our hearts are like poisons that we drink and expect the other person to die.Why punish ourselves for someone else's mistakes?
Forgiveness sets you free and brings peace that you deserve.As a believer of Islam one must be compassionate enough to forgive no matter how much hurt the offender caused. Prophet Muhammad S.A.W in his authentic hadith says that Have mercy on people so that the one in heavens have mercy on you when meet Him at the day of judgment.There is a golden rule that treat others the way you want them to treat you,but there is better,a diamond rule that treat others the way you want Allah to treat you.Forgive others as you expect Allah to forgive you.You say Allah is Ghafoor ur raheem and expect Him to forgive your every sin you commit for about 60 to 70 years yet you can not forgive your brother for one mistake he committed,you expect Allah to turn blind eye on all your ill deeds and only see the good deeds yet you look at a person and all you see is a giant gaping flaw only because he hurt you once.Therefore if we want Allah's mercy on the day of judgement we have to show mercy on his people,there is no other option that we have.He who demands mercy and show none himself destroys the bridge that he himself has to pass.
Forgiveness is a permanent Sunnah of our beloved Prophet SAW.we always hear and read the stories of how compassionate He was towards the people.For thirteen years our He was brutally tortured by people of Makkah both emotionally and physically.we read the story from childhood that a lady used to pour garbages on Nabi SAW 's head and He still not only forgave her but also visited her when she sick .prophet muhammad Saw was being called names , animal's guts were placed on his back during prayers ,He and his companions were boycotted for 3 years, they were left abandened forbidding them food .His loved ones including beloved uncle Hazrat Hamza was murdered and his corpse was being mutilated.Inspite of all these brutalities that our Prophet SAW faced,he still showed mercy on people of Makkah.After Fatah e Makkah when Muhammad SAW had the power to seek revenge ,He stood in front of people who troubled him in every possible ways and said O people of Makkah I forgive you all for everything you did to me and I have no hard feelings for anyone.Forgivness is one the most beautiful Sunnah of Prophet SAW ,he never kept grudges for anyone no matter what they did.We call ourselves Aashiq e Rasool SAW yet we are wronged once and keep grudges and hatred in our heart forever.
To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.The degree of emotional damage is generally in direct relation with closeness of a relation.The probability that your best friend will hurt you is way more than a random starnger ever will . Forgiveness is easy with memory of good things that have been done by them.It's true that they scrwed things up but remember the time when they were there for you when you needed someone,they believed in you at times when you didn't believe in yourself.Some people may argue that brother forgiveness is good but you don't understand how much they hurted me ,sometimes the emotional damage is so deep that it's difficult to look at the good things ,at these times remember that forgiveness is not about the offender and his offense at first place,it's about you Allah SWT , you have to forgive no matter what damage they caused because you want Allah to forgive you.Forgiving does not necessarily means forgetting and continuing to suffer again.Sometimes we should not forget the trouble they caused just to make sure that they don't hurt us again.
we live in imperfect world darling! in close relationships bad things are bound to happen , people will betray your expectations and hurt you badly .it's not too hard to tolerate people's flaws and imperfections by understanding the fact that they also tolerate your flaws as well.If any bad thing happens we should deal with it rather than losing all our energies on it.The secret of healthy relations and happy life is that we should focus on the good things of people and deal with the bad.The willingness to forgive is a sign of spiritual and emotional maturity. It is one of the great virtues to which we all should aspire. Imagine a world filled with individuals willing both to apologize and to accept an apology. Is there any problem that could not be solved among people who possessed the humility and largeness of spirit and soul to do either -- or both -- when needed?
Ramadan is a month of compromise and forgiveness Let today be the day you finally release yourself from the imprisonment of past grudges and anger. Simplify your life. Let go of the poisonous past and live the abundantly beautiful present... today.
we have stopped feeding our bodies, let's for once stop feeding our egos as well.let's release that hatred that will only consume ourselves.let's forgive ourselves by forgiving others.Let's forgive so that Allah will forgive us.
we are living in imperfect world.Allah SWT has intentionally created human beings as flawed and imperfect,so that He can test us.We are social animals as we interect and make friends we tend to build certain expectations from these people.We want things to go the way we want .As people are different and flawed in their own unique ways , our expectations are bound to be betrayed.Interaction with people can be constant source of emotional turmoil.It is likely that they are going to hurt us sooner or later.our response to such reaction are most crucial as It's not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us.
Most of the times when we get hurt,we tend to respond by anger and hatred.The problem with these responses are that these are shallow and backfire almost all the time.With hatred and agony we are giving the offender direct access to our mind and thoughts, which Will haunt us even more.Keeping hatred and grudges in our hearts are like poisons that we drink and expect the other person to die.Why punish ourselves for someone else's mistakes?
Forgiveness sets you free and brings peace that you deserve.As a believer of Islam one must be compassionate enough to forgive no matter how much hurt the offender caused. Prophet Muhammad S.A.W in his authentic hadith says that Have mercy on people so that the one in heavens have mercy on you when meet Him at the day of judgment.There is a golden rule that treat others the way you want them to treat you,but there is better,a diamond rule that treat others the way you want Allah to treat you.Forgive others as you expect Allah to forgive you.You say Allah is Ghafoor ur raheem and expect Him to forgive your every sin you commit for about 60 to 70 years yet you can not forgive your brother for one mistake he committed,you expect Allah to turn blind eye on all your ill deeds and only see the good deeds yet you look at a person and all you see is a giant gaping flaw only because he hurt you once.Therefore if we want Allah's mercy on the day of judgement we have to show mercy on his people,there is no other option that we have.He who demands mercy and show none himself destroys the bridge that he himself has to pass.
Forgiveness is a permanent Sunnah of our beloved Prophet SAW.we always hear and read the stories of how compassionate He was towards the people.For thirteen years our He was brutally tortured by people of Makkah both emotionally and physically.we read the story from childhood that a lady used to pour garbages on Nabi SAW 's head and He still not only forgave her but also visited her when she sick .prophet muhammad Saw was being called names , animal's guts were placed on his back during prayers ,He and his companions were boycotted for 3 years, they were left abandened forbidding them food .His loved ones including beloved uncle Hazrat Hamza was murdered and his corpse was being mutilated.Inspite of all these brutalities that our Prophet SAW faced,he still showed mercy on people of Makkah.After Fatah e Makkah when Muhammad SAW had the power to seek revenge ,He stood in front of people who troubled him in every possible ways and said O people of Makkah I forgive you all for everything you did to me and I have no hard feelings for anyone.Forgivness is one the most beautiful Sunnah of Prophet SAW ,he never kept grudges for anyone no matter what they did.We call ourselves Aashiq e Rasool SAW yet we are wronged once and keep grudges and hatred in our heart forever.
To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.The degree of emotional damage is generally in direct relation with closeness of a relation.The probability that your best friend will hurt you is way more than a random starnger ever will . Forgiveness is easy with memory of good things that have been done by them.It's true that they scrwed things up but remember the time when they were there for you when you needed someone,they believed in you at times when you didn't believe in yourself.Some people may argue that brother forgiveness is good but you don't understand how much they hurted me ,sometimes the emotional damage is so deep that it's difficult to look at the good things ,at these times remember that forgiveness is not about the offender and his offense at first place,it's about you Allah SWT , you have to forgive no matter what damage they caused because you want Allah to forgive you.Forgiving does not necessarily means forgetting and continuing to suffer again.Sometimes we should not forget the trouble they caused just to make sure that they don't hurt us again.
we live in imperfect world darling! in close relationships bad things are bound to happen , people will betray your expectations and hurt you badly .it's not too hard to tolerate people's flaws and imperfections by understanding the fact that they also tolerate your flaws as well.If any bad thing happens we should deal with it rather than losing all our energies on it.The secret of healthy relations and happy life is that we should focus on the good things of people and deal with the bad.The willingness to forgive is a sign of spiritual and emotional maturity. It is one of the great virtues to which we all should aspire. Imagine a world filled with individuals willing both to apologize and to accept an apology. Is there any problem that could not be solved among people who possessed the humility and largeness of spirit and soul to do either -- or both -- when needed?
Ramadan is a month of compromise and forgiveness Let today be the day you finally release yourself from the imprisonment of past grudges and anger. Simplify your life. Let go of the poisonous past and live the abundantly beautiful present... today.
we have stopped feeding our bodies, let's for once stop feeding our egos as well.let's release that hatred that will only consume ourselves.let's forgive ourselves by forgiving others.Let's forgive so that Allah will forgive us.
