When we start caring for someone too much...
We start hurting them, by hurting ourselves.
We start thinking in every second...
Hope I didn't hurt him/her by saying this or that... or not saying this or that...
Did I really mean what I said... would she/he have felt or have taken it in other ways...
What would she/he have been thinking of me...
Self pitying, because we care for someone so much that, we start feeling bad when we think... not even in true... just we think may be the other person have thought something wrong...
Do you get those thoughts ?
Why do you love her so much for who she is that you can compromise with your authenticity ?
First thing, everything and anything which you think or is outside of you can turn against you, if you have been constantly saying that to yourself in your brain. And even if they won't, you will feel it for sure, that's how our brain works... change the internal saying and see that no one is your enemy. Through everyone out there, God is pouring out kindness and love for you! Realize and internalize that nothing is wrong, whatever you have done or doing or will do. ...