What would of saved my last relationship? I can only say what I could have done to save my relationship with him. I can’t say what he could have or be willing to do. We don’t really know how our partners feel sometimes. We defiantly can’t speak for them. The only person’s actions we can be responsible for are our own. Knowing that could have been one of the things that may have made a difference. Along with……..

Better communication. I was good at stonewalling. This is a horrible thing to do to your partner. I shut down when I am overwhelmed with feelings.

Understanding that he is his own person. We are entitled to our thoughts, opinions, ways of doing things. Trying to change someone for who you think you want them to be does not work out.

Let go of my internal struggle to control life.

Reminded me of what’s important rather than getting lost in the chaos of life.

Understand that my thinking controls my feelings.

Became a greater source of love in my own heart so I was able to commit to giving love fully.

Not let my ego get in the way of learning and experiencing new things.

Instead of trying to get rid of my problems change my relationship with them. Seen my problems as an awakening opportunity to practice patience or learn. Knowing that the problems are the best place to learn to grow together.

Those are some of the main things I wish I would have known or paid more attention to working on. We all learn things in due time. When we are supposed to learn them to fit our life. I also know that living in regret of the past does me no good. I must stay in the present.
© Nichole H.