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Relationship arguments- 23 does and don't does
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**12 Don’t compare:
Comparisons hurt, and you’d know that if your partner ever compared you to someone else like their ex in the middle of a fight.
**13 Don’t inflict(cause) pain:
Don’t say things that could emotionally hurt your partner, or don't discourage them.
**14 Don’t manage your partner and confuse them with false information or false stories just to trick them into accepting what you have to say. They’ll realize it at some point in time, and it’ll only make them lose their trust in you.
**15 Don’t hear and tell:
If someone in your family involves your partner of something, don’t use an argument to reveal it all like they were always right. “My mom/dad was right about you… I don’t know what I ever saw in you!” may make you feel forgiven for a few seconds, but it’ll leave your partner feeling hurt and angry, and they may just end up giving you the silent treatment.
**16 Don’t brush away your frustrations:
If you’re angry and your partner involves you of something, don’t brush it away under the carpet by saying things like “whatever…” or “I don’t care what you think…” Remember, your partner is upset with you because they’re feeling hurt.
**17 Don’t ignore your partner: If you’re angry with your partner, don’t slam the door
**18 Don’t involve a third person: Don’t bring a third person as a mediator when your partner isn’t comfortable fighting or arguing their case in front of this person. Your partner may feel betrayed when you and the third person gang up together and try to explain why you’re right and your partner’s wrong!
**19 Do be honest:
The first step in an argument is honesty. You need to be clear about why you’re angry and you need to talk about it with your partner. If you don’t know why you’re angry, tell your partner that you’re not sure why you’re upset but you just are. Starting an argument with sincerity and honesty will always help your partner understand what hurt you or what you need, and they’ll be able to discuss the issue instead of arguing about it.
**20 Do try to communicate:
Really, why are you arguing? You’re arguing to fix a confusion, aren’t you? So is there a need to hurt your partner? Instead of trying to hurt them with harsh words, try to communicate with them so they can understand you and your expectations or demands.
**21 Do try to calm down:
As angry as you may be, you need to understand that anger will never fix the issue. And past experiences would tell you the same thing. So when you feel unbearably angry, excuse yourself or sit down quietly for a few minutes until your anger ebbs down, and try to talk to each other without raising your voices.
**22 Do apologize:
If you think you’re wrong. They may be taken aback by it, but they’ll understand your gesture and understand your sincerity. And even if you’re right and your partner apologizes to you, you need to tell your partner that you’re sorry too because you lost your cool or because you misunderstood them. It’s the easiest way to avoid ego clashes and stay humble in each other’s eyes.
**23 Walk up to your partner and hug them tightly for a minute or two. You don’t need to say a word, just hug them and try to remember just how much you love them, and just how much they mean to you.
After all, fights are guaranteed in a relationship. But that doesn’t mean you should forget that both of you are in love with each other, right?
Relationship arguments are temporary, but the way you deal with it can reveal whether it’ll affect your romance negatively or better it over time. So keep these 23dos and don’ts in mind the next time you’re angry with your partner, and it’ll bring both of you closer with each.
© Vinni🖤
**12 Don’t compare:
Comparisons hurt, and you’d know that if your partner ever compared you to someone else like their ex in the middle of a fight.
**13 Don’t inflict(cause) pain:
Don’t say things that could emotionally hurt your partner, or don't discourage them.
**14 Don’t manage your partner and confuse them with false information or false stories just to trick them into accepting what you have to say. They’ll realize it at some point in time, and it’ll only make them lose their trust in you.
**15 Don’t hear and tell:
If someone in your family involves your partner of something, don’t use an argument to reveal it all like they were always right. “My mom/dad was right about you… I don’t know what I ever saw in you!” may make you feel forgiven for a few seconds, but it’ll leave your partner feeling hurt and angry, and they may just end up giving you the silent treatment.
**16 Don’t brush away your frustrations:
If you’re angry and your partner involves you of something, don’t brush it away under the carpet by saying things like “whatever…” or “I don’t care what you think…” Remember, your partner is upset with you because they’re feeling hurt.
**17 Don’t ignore your partner: If you’re angry with your partner, don’t slam the door
**18 Don’t involve a third person: Don’t bring a third person as a mediator when your partner isn’t comfortable fighting or arguing their case in front of this person. Your partner may feel betrayed when you and the third person gang up together and try to explain why you’re right and your partner’s wrong!
**19 Do be honest:
The first step in an argument is honesty. You need to be clear about why you’re angry and you need to talk about it with your partner. If you don’t know why you’re angry, tell your partner that you’re not sure why you’re upset but you just are. Starting an argument with sincerity and honesty will always help your partner understand what hurt you or what you need, and they’ll be able to discuss the issue instead of arguing about it.
**20 Do try to communicate:
Really, why are you arguing? You’re arguing to fix a confusion, aren’t you? So is there a need to hurt your partner? Instead of trying to hurt them with harsh words, try to communicate with them so they can understand you and your expectations or demands.
**21 Do try to calm down:
As angry as you may be, you need to understand that anger will never fix the issue. And past experiences would tell you the same thing. So when you feel unbearably angry, excuse yourself or sit down quietly for a few minutes until your anger ebbs down, and try to talk to each other without raising your voices.
**22 Do apologize:
If you think you’re wrong. They may be taken aback by it, but they’ll understand your gesture and understand your sincerity. And even if you’re right and your partner apologizes to you, you need to tell your partner that you’re sorry too because you lost your cool or because you misunderstood them. It’s the easiest way to avoid ego clashes and stay humble in each other’s eyes.
**23 Walk up to your partner and hug them tightly for a minute or two. You don’t need to say a word, just hug them and try to remember just how much you love them, and just how much they mean to you.
After all, fights are guaranteed in a relationship. But that doesn’t mean you should forget that both of you are in love with each other, right?
Relationship arguments are temporary, but the way you deal with it can reveal whether it’ll affect your romance negatively or better it over time. So keep these 23dos and don’ts in mind the next time you’re angry with your partner, and it’ll bring both of you closer with each.
© Vinni🖤
