“Love is blind to imperfections”, they say. This actually means that people in love can’t see the problems or imperfections that their partners have. Really?? Is that a fact or a myth? We generally don’t believe in things that are said unless we experience it all by ourselves. “Love” is a beautiful word which sets right the things for a perfect relationship. But not everything you expect always goes in line.
Hi! I’m Betty. I work in a private sector as a designer and I’m 25. I’m single and am happily living my days. People ask me, “You are 25! Why don’t you have a boyfriend?” as if I had some mental issues. I do believe in love. But in my case, it always doesn’t go on well. I reckon on the fact – As much as you love and care someone, you get hurt. Yeah that’s true. I don’t want to ruin my normal happy life. I guess I have a problem in me. I’m not really good at relationships. It always gets ruined. No one would ever adjust or tolerate me. Even I, am not able to adapt myself to the person I love. Maybe I’m wrong.

The next phase of love is “Marriage”. In my culture, not everyone marries only after finding their one true love. We do skip the part “Love” and directly enter the phase “Marriage”.

Marriages are made in heaven, but not all of them. The people around often instruct me to get married as soon as possible as my age is marching beyond 25, like there is a law to get married before 25, or like I don’t have a choice.
You will have a beautiful and as-you-dreamt-of-life only if there is love. Its trash if you lead a married life with no love and just have a plenty of so called family duties that you ought to carry. It’s better spending the rest of your life all alone and enjoying the days left with your own interests and wishes.

Moreover, my family is an orthodox. Not only mine, I have seen several families with women spending their days awfully. Arguments, dismay, fights are all the most important part in their everyday life. All I ask is where does the sense and desire for love and marriage arise if your surrounding is filled with the negative effects of relationships? Everything we observe and learn begins at home and then the society. Society teaches us both the good and evil. But at home, all we observe may be the exact version of our future life.


And that’s why I don’t concur the concept of marriage in my life. Marriage without love is like a fish without water to live in. Love doesn’t come with an expiry date. It shouldn’t expire after a few years of marriage. If it does so, then there is no meaning of leading a life that is peaceful and happiness filled.
This is Betty’s happy life where love didn’t stand a chance.



© Varsha

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