TW: if s*x and dating is a trigger to you, please skip reading this.
Dating with DID is complicated. Imagine blind dating and you see the body, but its a whole other person. They look nothing like the body, the name is different, age, everything. It is complicated.
The first complication is the boundaries of dating. Alters have their own thoughts and feelings. They also come with their own sex drives. Dating as a singlet (a person with a singular identity) is hard enough. Just multiply that by however many eligible alters. When you decide the boundaries like: whether or not you are letting them date multiple singlets, one singlet partner, or a possible partner system. Then you have to decide, are they only dating 1 alter? Any alter?
Its these small minuet details in a relationship, that normal singlets just don’t think about. You go into a monogamous relationship with someone, you make it clear. You explore that relationship and learn boundaries. With a system, you don’t know where everyone’s boundaries are. It is highly important to make it extremely clear the rules and...