This friend became a loving father and husband and fierce human.

Ability to look back in the eyes of oppressor - I will get you not as, revenge but as a payback of karma. Dish served cold without malice.
I am telling you about a boy who did not oblige to become victim. I am not telling or not telling you but illuminating a point of not staying victim.

In today's times the biggest fear of govenments and social organizations that oppresses humans is that day humans stop playing victim and start to do something...