We live in a different world where if people aren't articulative as you might be, they may take your words as disrespectful or that you're trying to belittle them. You can't blame others for your inability to express yourself. If your a confident person and know who you are , not the person you act like for others. But know what you like , what your into , what your morals and values are. If you know your character and what your level of integrity is. You can't be influenced by others. Some take that as you opposing them. That's not the sentiment at all. Have you ever had your friends or family ask you if you like something , maybe food or music and you say no , and their like " What's wrong with you , how could you not like this !" That's projecting your feelings onto others. We are individuals. I don't have to like what you like and it's OK and we can still love and support each other. I know in this new world of influenced people it's hard to phantom that their are genuine people who walk to the beat of their own drum. That some of us aren't concerned with how other's look and what others do. We have no judgments on how you live , what you eat , drink or where you get your money. We don't project our feelings onto others and we don't take things that are not directed at us personally. Look at how people comment on social media. You might disagree with a person and as soon as you don't here comes the insults. Now when it first started. I am human so I went in , like we can meet up and see if you have a Godzilla mouth with 9/11 fingers. Then I thought to myself. This person doesn't know you , has never seen you and will probably never. Wether your wrong and their right or vice versa in the end what does it matter. I live by what my late uncle told me. "What you eat don't make me 💩". I don't have to like or be into what your into , I don't have to agree or be right. I can hear your reasoning and point of view amd respectfully agree to disagree. So I stopped arguing with people on social media or otherwise. That doesn't mean i wont speak my mind. Remember this , using curse words like Bernie Mack said can be essential they can be nouns or verbs. But if you only use them to express your emotions , then you probably can't articulate yourself in an Intelligent manner. Also arguing and loud talking is just signs that neither side feels heard so they scream and yell to get their point across. But in the end of an argument if there is no resolution then the argument was pointless. Don't be influenced in a world of people who want to influence. Get to know you and who you are. So you'll be able to stand in your essence and not be compromised or influenced by anyone. If your a strong and confident person taling to a weak and unconfident person it will come across you being a bully or mean. But you can say the exact same words to another person that is confident and they won't take what you said in a negative light. So was it the person who is sensitive and weak or was it the confidentperson who says what they feel. Well in actuality it's both. Just because I might be confident doesn't give me a right to knowing disregard someone's feelings 8f I know their not confident amd they get easily offended. Nor is it my obligation to suga coat or pacify someone else because they can't handle truthful expression. Bottom line is know who you are and live in your truth!
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