Marriage is a job whether you believe or not you have to work at it.... It is a work in progress...I believe if you look in the dictionary next to the word marriage the definition is the JOB.....This is the person you stood before God and said you would spend the rest of your life with .... You said your vows with that you would love, honor and cherish that person till death do you part.... I am not going to use OBEY, Because only dogs are to OBEY..... It is not 90/10, 60/40 it is 50/50.... But if you going into this bond thinking it is going to be easy IT IS NOT.... You struggle everyday you have your good days and bad days..Trying to have what someone else has or wanting someone else has is not good.... Grass is not always greener on the other side... Just like every thing that Glitters Baby ain't Gold..... Just because you are on the outside looking in, thinking that what you see it real... Baby what you see...