How often have we said to ourselves, “If I could go back in time, I would do things differently.”? When we think like this, we get stuck in the past, repeating it over and over again in our minds. But we also go on repeating it in our lives as well.

Every time I say this to myself, “If I could go back in time, I would do things differently”, a week goes by and nothing changes. I say it again, and a month goes by, and then a year. And I keep dwelling on the events of the past, while my present circumstances go on repeating. Nothing changes. I get stuck on this idea that my current circumstances are the way they are because of a poor decision in my past. And there’s some truth to this. But it’s also true that no matter how hard I wish, I can’t go back and change anything. And it seems the best I can do is feel bad about it.

But there is more that we can do. We can learn from it. We can learn from it and then let it go. When we look back and say, “If I could go back in time, I would have done things differently,” what exactly would we...