Phumi is a lady of 26 years. She dated a married man, Lungile, when I was in the Thswane University of Technology in Pretoria. Lungile was 59 years old when they met. Within three months of their relationship, Phumi became pregnant with their son.

She tried to abort the pregnancy but all her efforts failed. Eventually, Phumi gave birth to a bouncing baby boy. The boy is now five years old. Although, they did not get married, the man continued to take care of Phumi and their son.

However Lungile continued to take care of the child, but he had told Phumi he cannot marry her because of his marriage. Also, he had pleaded that he wanted the secret affairs to be kept away from his wife as well as the...