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Handling Criticism.
Handling criticism.
Criticism is something we tend to do one way or the other but it depends on how we go about it and language used. And no one should get used at it. Nobody likes to be criticized but unfortunately it's part of us.
Criticism can either make you or break you. People might criticize you because they want to feel important or respected. Others see themselves as experts and liked to point out your faults and mistakes. Sometimes they feel you are not doing your part well and need to put you on track.
But how do people go about it when criticing you?
Sometimes people end up criticing instead of voicing out their complaint based on the language used. If someone is constantly using harsh words, it's probably criticism and we must learn that not everything they say is true whether it's from family or a loved one.
Criticism feeds into your insecurities and creates self doubt. It triggers fear and the ability to do things right. Criticism belittles you making them be in charge of your thoughts and actions
It's important to listen to critics but not feeling down about it. It can be a tool to learn and grow.
Learn to listen and understand where they are coming from
Is it from a genuine place?. Are they trying to help? Are they right or wrong?. And do they offer constructive options to make a better decision. Learn to listen to those that points outs where you wrong and offers suggestions on improving. The more you listen the better you understand their point and how they percieved the situation. Don't try to prove your point of being right without listening. This creates conflict when the critic feels they are not being heard.
Be curious and ask questions. This helps to understand their point more clearly and stick to the fact of what actually happened.
Learn to communicate in person if it's someone you know. If it's a a stranger who just criticized you for your work, then you might just choose to ignore. Sometimes words can be miscommunicated in texts. Talking to the individual in person sets the right tone and clarifies intentions.
Try talking to another person. Either a family or friend. They may ask questions on what triggered the criticism and you need to answer truthfully. This can make you see the situation in a different way.
Reflect on the situation all over again and know that sometimes people criticize you not because of your faults or mistakes. Some are just in a controlling personality and can't handle with you being on a different wing.
Have a positive attitude and ignore when necessary. Learn to accept it and use it to your advantage. Accept it, learn from it, upgrade yourself, develop your qualities, read and practice.
Learn to listen but don't lose your own voice and thoughts. Be confident in your decisions and know that no one is perfect.
Stephanie Mensah.
@phanieanas.
© phanieanas
Criticism is something we tend to do one way or the other but it depends on how we go about it and language used. And no one should get used at it. Nobody likes to be criticized but unfortunately it's part of us.
Criticism can either make you or break you. People might criticize you because they want to feel important or respected. Others see themselves as experts and liked to point out your faults and mistakes. Sometimes they feel you are not doing your part well and need to put you on track.
But how do people go about it when criticing you?
Sometimes people end up criticing instead of voicing out their complaint based on the language used. If someone is constantly using harsh words, it's probably criticism and we must learn that not everything they say is true whether it's from family or a loved one.
Criticism feeds into your insecurities and creates self doubt. It triggers fear and the ability to do things right. Criticism belittles you making them be in charge of your thoughts and actions
It's important to listen to critics but not feeling down about it. It can be a tool to learn and grow.
Learn to listen and understand where they are coming from
Is it from a genuine place?. Are they trying to help? Are they right or wrong?. And do they offer constructive options to make a better decision. Learn to listen to those that points outs where you wrong and offers suggestions on improving. The more you listen the better you understand their point and how they percieved the situation. Don't try to prove your point of being right without listening. This creates conflict when the critic feels they are not being heard.
Be curious and ask questions. This helps to understand their point more clearly and stick to the fact of what actually happened.
Learn to communicate in person if it's someone you know. If it's a a stranger who just criticized you for your work, then you might just choose to ignore. Sometimes words can be miscommunicated in texts. Talking to the individual in person sets the right tone and clarifies intentions.
Try talking to another person. Either a family or friend. They may ask questions on what triggered the criticism and you need to answer truthfully. This can make you see the situation in a different way.
Reflect on the situation all over again and know that sometimes people criticize you not because of your faults or mistakes. Some are just in a controlling personality and can't handle with you being on a different wing.
Have a positive attitude and ignore when necessary. Learn to accept it and use it to your advantage. Accept it, learn from it, upgrade yourself, develop your qualities, read and practice.
Learn to listen but don't lose your own voice and thoughts. Be confident in your decisions and know that no one is perfect.
Stephanie Mensah.
@phanieanas.
© phanieanas
