To keep me from being angry and crying after refusing to do what I ordered her, she would make sure of what I wanted, so she would turn back towards me in the bed. Mum would fix what I had instructed, and that is to tap the top of my duvet. Would you believe just by meeting this demand, I stopped crying and being angry suddenly, and I was able to lie down and relax.

Can you see that there’s a pattern of not just me being distressed, but Mum is too? Because I didn’t know what this was all about and other people suggested to her I was trying to control her again, but as a mum, and knowing this isn’t the young boy she knew, she had something telling...