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Mothers & daughters | Breaking Generational Curses: Part 02
Recently, I've been working on my conditioning and changing my mindset from the usual norm to a "high value woman" sometimes these things are taught to us by our mothers and other times, it takes us longer to learn and we do so via experience.
What we do inherently pick up from our mothers however, are the wounds and generational trauma that have been carried throughout each generation which must stop somewhere. Shaping and moulding myself now means that my daughter gets the best version of me; an emotionally available, present, mentally stable mother who is ready to teach her how to embrace her feminity while maintaining a balance.
It's a very transformative time for me as I am also on the journey of closing the chapter of my 20s. I've made the concerted effort to debunk old mindsets, change my ways of thinking and doing things. Decided that I'll hold of on any consumption of alcohol as self care and boundary-setting are a high level priority in our household right now.
My 20s have been exceptional, I've had highs and lows. Touched the highs of success and dipped into the lows of grief and loss. I do remember having a list of things I needed to accomplish in my 20s as a teenager. I wanted a driver's licence, passport to travel, higher tertiary qualification- I've surpassed my expectations and also had many regressions, all of which I've learnt thoroughly from.
If I could use these experiences to grow my daughter into becoming someone bigger and better, why not?
My mother is a great person, she had her own set of troubles which I now understand better but she did the best she could given the resources she had and I can do the same given the growth we've undergone.
When I think of my daughter, I wonder how much more can she be with all the learning curves I've passed, how many more lives can she touch. I want her to be a woman of high value and integrity who will go through life strong and able to deal with whatever life throws at her.
That's the beauty of renewal, growth and discernment. It not only benefits one person, it changes the algorithm and changes things for the future generations. One of my favourite quote are, "If you didn't come from a healthy family, make sure a healthy family comes from you". That beautifully ties up the journey, doesn't it?
© Memoirs of Maryannable's Mashables
What we do inherently pick up from our mothers however, are the wounds and generational trauma that have been carried throughout each generation which must stop somewhere. Shaping and moulding myself now means that my daughter gets the best version of me; an emotionally available, present, mentally stable mother who is ready to teach her how to embrace her feminity while maintaining a balance.
It's a very transformative time for me as I am also on the journey of closing the chapter of my 20s. I've made the concerted effort to debunk old mindsets, change my ways of thinking and doing things. Decided that I'll hold of on any consumption of alcohol as self care and boundary-setting are a high level priority in our household right now.
My 20s have been exceptional, I've had highs and lows. Touched the highs of success and dipped into the lows of grief and loss. I do remember having a list of things I needed to accomplish in my 20s as a teenager. I wanted a driver's licence, passport to travel, higher tertiary qualification- I've surpassed my expectations and also had many regressions, all of which I've learnt thoroughly from.
If I could use these experiences to grow my daughter into becoming someone bigger and better, why not?
My mother is a great person, she had her own set of troubles which I now understand better but she did the best she could given the resources she had and I can do the same given the growth we've undergone.
When I think of my daughter, I wonder how much more can she be with all the learning curves I've passed, how many more lives can she touch. I want her to be a woman of high value and integrity who will go through life strong and able to deal with whatever life throws at her.
That's the beauty of renewal, growth and discernment. It not only benefits one person, it changes the algorithm and changes things for the future generations. One of my favourite quote are, "If you didn't come from a healthy family, make sure a healthy family comes from you". That beautifully ties up the journey, doesn't it?
© Memoirs of Maryannable's Mashables
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