There is a huge difference between loving someone and being loved by someone. In majority of couples not both sides love each other with equal level of energies. In most of the couples there is an individual who is loving his partner and the other one is loved by that partner. Both are in different situations. When you fall in love with someone you don't know if they will love you or not. You start to try doing things so that the person who loves you also falls in love with you or atleast fulfill all your needs of love that you started expecting from them.
Yes ! You are right, there are no expectations in love but this is not true for both partners. In a couple there is usually one partner who wants to keep doing things for his/her partner out of love and in doing so he/she feels pleasure from this and the other partner who is getting all these benefits has to do nothing but just sit there and enjoy all these special things done by his/her partner. So there develops a huge difference in giving and receiving of energies. And it is also true that these roles can not remain same all the time. Time comes when the partner who was responsible for giving love also starts feeling the need of being loved. And the other partner who was receiving love all the time wants to feel the pleasure of giving some love. Everything seems balanced here but it is not so. The problem arises when they feel this urge of giving and receiving love opposite to their nature is developed at different instant of time. The situation gets worsened at this time. The person who was supposed to give love feels the need of receiving some love but the other partner who is habitual of receiving love may not be able to give that love at the same time and in such situation both needs love but there is no one to give them that love. In such situation, both feels angry because of hunger of love. In some situations things get too much worsened and there starts happening quarrels. These quarrels can also lead to break up in some situations.
These problems often occur in most couples and there is no solution to this. The only solution was to understand this problem and find such partner who vibrates at the frequency same as ours, so that both sides keep giving and receiving love all the time and they would not get confused whether when to give love and when to expect to receive it. They will do the actions instantly when they feel the need to love and receive the love.
But this does not mean that the rest of the couples who are not balanced in giving and receiving the love should break up. They too can balance their energies by understanding each other and making understand each other, if they want to make their relationship strong. It is too necessary to understand our relationships and nurturing them with positivity, understanding and happiness. Relationships put huge impacts on both our personal and professional lives and when we stop putting energies in it, we stop receiving outputs and the plant of love starts drying up leading to its death.
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