In this world of duality, we go through different kinds of experiences with various people including ( family, friends, lovers etc). The one's who are on their awakening journey understand the lessons from these experiences . The lessons that we learn from our experiences are only meant to help us grow & expand our consciousness. It is often seen that most of the people are stuck in certain patterns of their lives , infact they are the walking patterns & I am saying this because they keep on repeating certain habbits that they developed because of past trauma & expect a different results ! on the other hand those who are wise enough to discipline themselves & break those toxic habbits are mostly ascended to the next levels of consciousness. But how can we do that? Firstly instead of putting complete blame on the other individuals for the chaos that happened in our lives , we must first learn to go within & reflect on our part as well for the contribution of that situation & why we made that choice to do so? This process is called ( Shadow work) . In this fast paced world it is often seen people are living with ( blame games, ego based reaction, overthinking, fear based decisions, lack mindset etc) . We must remember that the situations or triggers we face are often mirrored by the others & yes often others also project their trauma on us. What is going within us is often reflected in the outside world around us. Many people are afraid of facing their shadow self & doing the necessary healing required to overcome the dormant trauma they attained from their past experiences & these kind of people often remain stuck in that same pattern. Those are ready to sit with those feelings of pain in the stillness and are ready to heal them & be greateful for the present & are able to let go the past completely are the ones who actually experience a soul expansion & blessings from the universe. This process requires forgiveness & patience as well but healthy boundaries too. There are 11 major lessons that life teaches us :
1 Letting go Ego & Fear.
2 Surrender the outcomes of Situations.
3 Sel Love & living for yourself.
4 You cannot control the other person.
5 Taking accountability of your actions.
6 Being Greateful for what you have in the present.
7 Being in the present .
8 Remaining Neutral in situations & balancing the duality within you .
9 You cannot save others.
10 Setting healthy boundaries with others.
11 Letting go of Victim mentality.
The basic reasons why we go through difficult situations is because of our ego & these situations causes us to humble down & become more wiser. It is very important for us to understand that these situations happened ( for us & not to us ) & we must get out of the victim mentality & forgive those who hurt us for our own freedom & not harbour 'grudge' as it's only going to hurt us & it's also important to set healthy boundaries so that we don't allow those who betrayed us back into our lives or even someone new who's like that. We can forgive others even by keeping our distance. Now for those who are empaths , I will say helping others is great quality & should maintain it but we must not forcefully try to help the other person if he's not ready to change & it's not our responsibility ! Empaths often burden themselves with others problems , so you should know when to help & when to withdraw & protect your energies. Practicing self love & living in the present moment is the key element of success in every aspect of our lives. We can practice self love by making goals for ourselves & treating ourselves with the good food, clothes, or anything we love to do that makes us happy & by giving importance to our own needs & priorities . Self love is not 'selfish' because if you don't love yourself & maintain a healthy relationship with yourself then don't expect others to respect you as well as it all starts from you ! We must learn to be greatful for what we have in the present moment instead of focusing on what we don't have because that's a lack mindset , so write a gratitude journal or while meditating be greatful to the universe & your spiritual team for providing you for what you have in the present. Inner peace is also achieved by living in the present moment & appreciating it. Now the important part to learn is that we cannot control situations or people but we can remain neutral & respond wisely & we must learn to surrender when sometimes things go beyond our control because that's the test from the universe on how much faith we have , to let the situation be handled to the universe . The choices we make in our lives leads & creates our future & we must learn to take the responsibility of our choices. Time is linear on Earth but it doesn't exist in Universe . Past timeline is gone and it can be only layered by forgiveness but the choices & dicision we made in the past cannot be changed they become an imprint on that past timeline but yes we can add the layers of forgiveness & move on to live in the present as future in unknown with unknown possibilities & it only depends on the choices we make in the present & different choice will lead us to the different outcome . Every timeline is connected (past, present and future) in different dimensions so we must learn to give most importance to (our present ) so that we can create positive ripples for the future without getting attached to any outcome. 🧚💕🍀
© #Herleen#quotes