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Marriage isn't for everyone but it is for a few. It took me three tries to tell me that marriage wasn't for me.
We all know that marriage only works when both people involved put forth the effort in making it work.
I simply lacked the will to continue to put up with their disrespect, disloyalty, and the inability to be able to trust their words and their abuse.
Living life on broken eggshells or like you're walking on broken glass is the worst position one can find themselves in with the biggest issue is getting out.
No one thinks that when they get married that it could go - so horribly wrong. The abuses starts 3 days after saying I do.
The first sign of the biggest mistake you just made but you think you love him/her... So, you stay.
Months passed as the abuse got out of control. Now you're desperate to get out or too scared to leave.
When a child's life is involved - get out fast. When your life is threatened - get out fast. When they say these words "I'm gonna kill you" or "I wish you were dead" - get out fast.
Here's the most important lessons I learned:
1. Never stay where you're not welcome.
2. Love is not abuse.
3. Love will walk out when not received.
4. You can't change someone who doesn't want to change.
5. No amount of love can change an hater
but a bullet will.
6. Move on with your life.
7. I deserve better. ***
8. It wasn't your fault and if it is get out fast.
9. Learn from your mistakes.
10. Don't get married if you're not ready to commit.
11. Your prayers can get you through the it.
12. I realized that I wasn't made for marriage.
13. Marriage is hard work coming from both.
14. Make that first hit - the last one.
15. Don't be stupid - abuse isn't love.
16. If you feel they're unfaithful - they are.
17. Anytime "buttie calls" don't apply to abusers - that's called "Rape".
18. Nothing is worth losing your life over not ever the love you think you have.
19. Marriage is not worth dying for - not unless you find that special one and you two grow old together and die separately apart.
20. You don't have to get married but it's a good thing when you find that right someone to married.
No matter which direction you choose to travel, make sure that you understand what you're getting into - because at the age of 16 I had no idea that marriage could go so badly - so fast.
Cause it took everything in me to survive the hell that each marriage took me through and the wounds that each left upon me.
Would I recommend marriage - no. But for those who believe that it's for them you have my blessings and my prayers. Because you are going to need the timber going up for both of you.
© V's Says
We all know that marriage only works when both people involved put forth the effort in making it work.
I simply lacked the will to continue to put up with their disrespect, disloyalty, and the inability to be able to trust their words and their abuse.
Living life on broken eggshells or like you're walking on broken glass is the worst position one can find themselves in with the biggest issue is getting out.
No one thinks that when they get married that it could go - so horribly wrong. The abuses starts 3 days after saying I do.
The first sign of the biggest mistake you just made but you think you love him/her... So, you stay.
Months passed as the abuse got out of control. Now you're desperate to get out or too scared to leave.
When a child's life is involved - get out fast. When your life is threatened - get out fast. When they say these words "I'm gonna kill you" or "I wish you were dead" - get out fast.
Here's the most important lessons I learned:
1. Never stay where you're not welcome.
2. Love is not abuse.
3. Love will walk out when not received.
4. You can't change someone who doesn't want to change.
5. No amount of love can change an hater
but a bullet will.
6. Move on with your life.
7. I deserve better. ***
8. It wasn't your fault and if it is get out fast.
9. Learn from your mistakes.
10. Don't get married if you're not ready to commit.
11. Your prayers can get you through the it.
12. I realized that I wasn't made for marriage.
13. Marriage is hard work coming from both.
14. Make that first hit - the last one.
15. Don't be stupid - abuse isn't love.
16. If you feel they're unfaithful - they are.
17. Anytime "buttie calls" don't apply to abusers - that's called "Rape".
18. Nothing is worth losing your life over not ever the love you think you have.
19. Marriage is not worth dying for - not unless you find that special one and you two grow old together and die separately apart.
20. You don't have to get married but it's a good thing when you find that right someone to married.
No matter which direction you choose to travel, make sure that you understand what you're getting into - because at the age of 16 I had no idea that marriage could go so badly - so fast.
Cause it took everything in me to survive the hell that each marriage took me through and the wounds that each left upon me.
Would I recommend marriage - no. But for those who believe that it's for them you have my blessings and my prayers. Because you are going to need the timber going up for both of you.
© V's Says
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