Dear Friends,
jai siyaram
Fear is one of the biggest challenges which stops us making progress. Fear kills our enthusiasm. It breaks our speed of learning. Let's find the perfect solution of fear. See, being Fearless is an achievement. Being Fearless is itself a big success. But that is the destination. We have to complete the journey to reach there. So the first step is to accept the fact that I am fearful. sometimes people can't accept that they have a fear. They run away from the fear. They try to show that they don't afraid. But you can run away from anything but not from your mind. Mind is always with us so there is no need to run away. Accepting that I am afraid hurts the ego very hard, because we have a belief that having a fear means very bad. we don't look ourselves with respect. But it is not so. Respect yourself even if you have a fear, love yourself inspite of being a fearful person. This is the first and the most important step you must take. Accept, Accept and Accept. Once you accept the fact, you start feeling relaxed, till now you were running away from the problem so your focus was on problem but now as you have accepted the problem, you will automatically shift to the solution. Automatically your mind will ask you what is next. Mind is very strange we all know that it generally doesn't give attention to what is in present and confirmed. As the fear is in present and Confirmed, Mind will jump to other things. Now there will two options Mind will give you: One is to give up. as soon as you think to give up, you feel stress free, no more fear problem. Second is to postpone, not now after sometimes. This idea also helps to be free from fear for sometimes. When your Mind gives you such opinions due to fear, tell him that this is the temporary solution and temporary pleasure. Again the fear will frighten you whenever you will again decide to speak. Now the Second step to talk to Mind. Mind is not always wrong. Sometimes a fear saves us from many things. Many people put themselves into a very painful situation due to thoughtless daring. So not to listen Mind is also not good option. So we should talk to Mind the reasons of fear. Ask your Mind: If I speak English, is there social, economical, and natural damage to any one's life? Mind will say No. Because trying to learn any language doesn't cause any harm in general. If I speak English, is there any problem to Me? Mind will say Yes. If you speak you will make mistakes, people may laugh at you, or your performance may be so bad that you yourself dislike it. These all things will hurt your Ego. And when Ego is hurt, it gives a pain. Here is the third and final step you have to take. To show your mind What is very painful and what is more important. At one side Ego is saved, and a talent is in loss, on the other side, Ego is in loss and a talent is saved. Now if there is ego loss, it is your personal loss for sometimes only but if there is talent loss, it is personal and public loss both for always. Because you and your society will not get benefits of your talent. Now 99% your Mind will be ready to face the fear. Fear can only go by facing it, not by running away from it. Nelson Mandela said: Brave is not who has no fear but those who face the fear. There is Ear in Fear. Fear frightens us by telling about failure in our ear. Don't give ear to fear. and you will see fear will never be powerful enough to stop you making progress.
so first accept, second talk to Mind and Third take action with fear. Loss of Ego is far more affordable than loss of Talent
jai siyaram
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