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Are beauty+character enough criteria to get married?
Are beauty+handsome+character+wealth enough criterias to get married?
Part A
If I told you they're not enough criteria to get married would you believe me? read on...
Marriage is not a drill, it's real...
Hence, you don't play Q&A games with it because it's beyond that. It's beyond merely deciding on the basis of very few factors: like beauty/handsome/character/wealth.
You must understand that when it comes to getting married or choosing for oneself who to marry, you don't just consider "surface factors" as these, you consider everything.
And by everything I mean everything...
Even if you found someone that's beautiful or handsome, with good character plus wealth. Those are still not enough reasons to get married because that 'someone' even with all of those enticing qualities could be bankrupt (lacking) of things that money cannot buy, beauty cannot satisfy and character cannot nullify.
They could be suffering from serious anger issues, a terminal disease, a repulsive deficiency (such as mouth or body odor) among others to say the least.
And if you don't want to risk watching everything you once perceived as 'perfection' turn out to become an illusion after a supposedly loud and sumptuous wedding, you might want to agree with me on this cruel fact.
I do not infer that you can't get married to people with the above mentioned deficiencies. Of course you can but I believe you'd have a hard time doing so if you NEVER knew these 'parts' of them ever EXISTED and only got to know them after marriage.
Which is why I wrote this: so that you'd be fully aware of the very crucial points to consider before saying "I do"...
In fact, we haven't even talked about stuffs like (if it's a lady) being a really bad cook, addicted to the 'old life' (prostitution), plus (if it's a guy) being addicted to stuffs like smoking, drinking or womanizing: all traits in the past that won't let go...
Part B
Don't breeeeath yet...
How about not having the same or common interest: He or she might be cute and has good character plus wealth but there might exist a wide range of differences in interest, hobbies, passion - you name them - between you two.
One might be obsessed with music and the other, a "musical anhedonia" which certainly might result in misunderstanding someday.
One might be a religious bigot (so passionate about God) and the other, a shallow Christian (rather passionate about life) and this might result in quarreling.
One might be allergic to some kinds of food and the other might just so much love them and this might result in misunderstanding.
One might be very social, convivial, clubbable, jovial and extroverted but the other might be reserved, introverted and hates being overly social and this will most definitely result in a big misunderstanding.
One might be careless in spending and the other, too careful even when there's more than enough money available and this might result in a quarrel.
Marriage again I say is not a drill, it's real. It's a reality...
And if you ever set on the journey to find your soul mate, of course it's okay to look out for beauty/handsome/character/wealth. But while you do this, remember to LOOK DEEPER and only when you find what you can TOLERATE should you proceed to say "I DO!"
HINT: You could definitely date someone for those three reasons I mentioned, sure, but don't you dare marry someone just for those criterias because...
"It becomes easy to sail through the storm when you know which direction it's coming from and which direction it's going"
© Joshgenius
Part A
If I told you they're not enough criteria to get married would you believe me? read on...
Marriage is not a drill, it's real...
Hence, you don't play Q&A games with it because it's beyond that. It's beyond merely deciding on the basis of very few factors: like beauty/handsome/character/wealth.
You must understand that when it comes to getting married or choosing for oneself who to marry, you don't just consider "surface factors" as these, you consider everything.
And by everything I mean everything...
Even if you found someone that's beautiful or handsome, with good character plus wealth. Those are still not enough reasons to get married because that 'someone' even with all of those enticing qualities could be bankrupt (lacking) of things that money cannot buy, beauty cannot satisfy and character cannot nullify.
They could be suffering from serious anger issues, a terminal disease, a repulsive deficiency (such as mouth or body odor) among others to say the least.
And if you don't want to risk watching everything you once perceived as 'perfection' turn out to become an illusion after a supposedly loud and sumptuous wedding, you might want to agree with me on this cruel fact.
I do not infer that you can't get married to people with the above mentioned deficiencies. Of course you can but I believe you'd have a hard time doing so if you NEVER knew these 'parts' of them ever EXISTED and only got to know them after marriage.
Which is why I wrote this: so that you'd be fully aware of the very crucial points to consider before saying "I do"...
In fact, we haven't even talked about stuffs like (if it's a lady) being a really bad cook, addicted to the 'old life' (prostitution), plus (if it's a guy) being addicted to stuffs like smoking, drinking or womanizing: all traits in the past that won't let go...
Part B
Don't breeeeath yet...
How about not having the same or common interest: He or she might be cute and has good character plus wealth but there might exist a wide range of differences in interest, hobbies, passion - you name them - between you two.
One might be obsessed with music and the other, a "musical anhedonia" which certainly might result in misunderstanding someday.
One might be a religious bigot (so passionate about God) and the other, a shallow Christian (rather passionate about life) and this might result in quarreling.
One might be allergic to some kinds of food and the other might just so much love them and this might result in misunderstanding.
One might be very social, convivial, clubbable, jovial and extroverted but the other might be reserved, introverted and hates being overly social and this will most definitely result in a big misunderstanding.
One might be careless in spending and the other, too careful even when there's more than enough money available and this might result in a quarrel.
Marriage again I say is not a drill, it's real. It's a reality...
And if you ever set on the journey to find your soul mate, of course it's okay to look out for beauty/handsome/character/wealth. But while you do this, remember to LOOK DEEPER and only when you find what you can TOLERATE should you proceed to say "I DO!"
HINT: You could definitely date someone for those three reasons I mentioned, sure, but don't you dare marry someone just for those criterias because...
"It becomes easy to sail through the storm when you know which direction it's coming from and which direction it's going"
© Joshgenius
