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"How was your Christmas?"
The words echoed into my ears even before they left my co-workers mouth.
I instinctively have enough experience with avoidance and deflection to get a jump on her question.
By appearing busy and having enough ‘questions’ and data of my own; I was able to layer my question on top of hers seemingly without a noticeable pause.
I understand that I could just answer like everyone else does, with the obligatory, “Fine, thanks how was yours?”
However, being the Infp personality type that I am, mixed in with the now
Mom of a substance use disorder adult child -that I must keep hidden in order to avoid the sigma of judgement- I just can’t seem to gloss over small talk with fake clichë answers.
It doesn’t help that I work in a culture of very religious young adults who mostly all meet the criteria for (our) societal expectation of school, college, church missions, marraige, & service; leaving zero time...
I instinctively have enough experience with avoidance and deflection to get a jump on her question.
By appearing busy and having enough ‘questions’ and data of my own; I was able to layer my question on top of hers seemingly without a noticeable pause.
I understand that I could just answer like everyone else does, with the obligatory, “Fine, thanks how was yours?”
However, being the Infp personality type that I am, mixed in with the now
Mom of a substance use disorder adult child -that I must keep hidden in order to avoid the sigma of judgement- I just can’t seem to gloss over small talk with fake clichë answers.
It doesn’t help that I work in a culture of very religious young adults who mostly all meet the criteria for (our) societal expectation of school, college, church missions, marraige, & service; leaving zero time...
