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Don't try to change people
Don't try to change people
I am always on here saying don't try to change people. We need to accept them for who they are. I look for the good in people, I look at their hearts to see what kind of people they really are in their soul. I know that we all have faults, and we are human, after all.
I know better than anyone what it is like to try to be someone else to please another person.
You lose yourself, you give pieces of yourself away until there is none left. Then you wake up one day, not knowing who you are and wondering what happened.
I realized that I also wouldn't want a person to change for me, that if that is who they are, they should continue to be who they are. I would never want someone else to go through what I went through or to feel what I felt.
If you're with someone who wants to change, that's wonderful, but how do you know if they really want to, or are they doing it for you? How do you know that later on, they will realize they didn't want to do it? They just wanted to make you happy, yet now they are miserable because they are not their authentic selves? I remember a time when a man said he didn't want children because he wanted to be with me. But I knew he was only doing that for me because I didn't want any more children. I had to walk away so that he would continue to be his authentic self. This was his dream and I wouldn't let him try to compromise it for me.
So when I am out here in the dating world, I have to figure this out... Can I accept this person? His flaws, his background, his little quirks? Or do they bother me too much, and do I have to walk away.
I don't have all the answers, as we each walk our own journey and must be true to ourselves. All I know is that I have to be me, always. Take me or leave me, that's okay, but I am not changing.
Not to say I won't learn things along the way or see things from a different point of view and then make a decision on my own to change. I do know how to compromise, but to try to get someone to love me or like me, trying to be something I am not. No, that is one lesson I learned, and I don't need a repeat performance. Thank you! Just like letting someone change to please me... No, that is not happening either.
So today my friends remember to be true to you. Be your authentic self, and never change for someone else. If you change, change because you want to be a better person and, as I always say, be the change "you" want to see.
"Be the change you want to see,"
@TreadmillTreats
© TreadmillTreats
I am always on here saying don't try to change people. We need to accept them for who they are. I look for the good in people, I look at their hearts to see what kind of people they really are in their soul. I know that we all have faults, and we are human, after all.
I know better than anyone what it is like to try to be someone else to please another person.
You lose yourself, you give pieces of yourself away until there is none left. Then you wake up one day, not knowing who you are and wondering what happened.
I realized that I also wouldn't want a person to change for me, that if that is who they are, they should continue to be who they are. I would never want someone else to go through what I went through or to feel what I felt.
If you're with someone who wants to change, that's wonderful, but how do you know if they really want to, or are they doing it for you? How do you know that later on, they will realize they didn't want to do it? They just wanted to make you happy, yet now they are miserable because they are not their authentic selves? I remember a time when a man said he didn't want children because he wanted to be with me. But I knew he was only doing that for me because I didn't want any more children. I had to walk away so that he would continue to be his authentic self. This was his dream and I wouldn't let him try to compromise it for me.
So when I am out here in the dating world, I have to figure this out... Can I accept this person? His flaws, his background, his little quirks? Or do they bother me too much, and do I have to walk away.
I don't have all the answers, as we each walk our own journey and must be true to ourselves. All I know is that I have to be me, always. Take me or leave me, that's okay, but I am not changing.
Not to say I won't learn things along the way or see things from a different point of view and then make a decision on my own to change. I do know how to compromise, but to try to get someone to love me or like me, trying to be something I am not. No, that is one lesson I learned, and I don't need a repeat performance. Thank you! Just like letting someone change to please me... No, that is not happening either.
So today my friends remember to be true to you. Be your authentic self, and never change for someone else. If you change, change because you want to be a better person and, as I always say, be the change "you" want to see.
"Be the change you want to see,"
@TreadmillTreats
© TreadmillTreats
