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Cycle of toxicities
General behavioral cycle in a toxic conversational phase/days of a relationship
Step 1: Have problem in life be it family issue, financial issue, career issue anything.
Step 2: Get frustated, negative, cynical about it because now being a lazy, unorganized, indisciplined person you have to work to sort it out. On top of that you lack self-confience, belief, motivation and energy to work for it.
Step 3: So now you overthink the issue and now usual behavioral patterns come into the picture again.
Step 4: You instantly want to share it with someone you claim to be close. While sharing you instantly have a pre-conceived notion with expectations and ego involved. When you don't receive the desired response, reaction, sympathy, suggestion, solution or efforts from that person, it aggrevates you more. Now you are more frustated, irritated and angry. You feel that as an attack on your ego.
Step 5: Now you attack the person you claimed to be close for not reacting/responding as per your desire with claims like "You also have issues and problems but I am there no". So you claim to ease the other person's life with your efforts, solutions and advices, but that solely is your dominant opinion. There is no other person's say in it regarding what he/she actually feels about your illusionary efforts or helps. Infact how your behave, mistreatements and words mostly make him feel derailed of life.
Step 6: So now since you have attacked the other person's mental stability and peace, you feel pleasured that now you are not the only one facing problem. You feel peaceful and entertained by your inner unknown habit.
Step 7: Now the problem is not the main issue which you had in life. The main problem is the lack of desired expected response from the third person who you claimed to be close and eventually spoiled his/her mental peace and stability through your words, treatment, frustation n behave.
Step 8: To avoid the prolonged fight and arguement, your close person puts phone on aeroplane mode or switches it off coz if he/she keeps it on, you constantly call him/her to force him/her to talk to you so that you can insult and ridicule him/her for not giving desired response as per your will. And also at the same time you can shift the main issue and enjoy your say in the fight or arguement.
Step 9: You constantly disturb his/her mental peace and force him/her to chat/talk over phone with you so that you enjoy a long fight and arguement out of usual egoistic demeanour and habit attacking the other person's mental peace, stability and self-respect making him/her feel bad for every bit of his/her breath. After that the usual tantrums follow but you sleep peacefully after having ruined other person's day because of your own mindset and toxicity.
Step 10: No talks for few hours sometime days follows. After that you understand the value of person. All good bad expereinces from past follows. You text and harass him/her over phone again continuously through constant calls, chats etc. When you don't get the usual easy desired reaction/response again, you again get frustated, cry, retaliate, force to get things back as per your will and desire.
Step 11: It goes on for eternity till you both are on talking terms again. Once you get that, you again demean and insult the other person bringing the same issue of desired reaction into the conversation, though softly this time with less narcissism in order to have you win over the ego play and also make other person feel ridiculed and lost.
The cycle continues......
© thestubbornbeast_10
Step 1: Have problem in life be it family issue, financial issue, career issue anything.
Step 2: Get frustated, negative, cynical about it because now being a lazy, unorganized, indisciplined person you have to work to sort it out. On top of that you lack self-confience, belief, motivation and energy to work for it.
Step 3: So now you overthink the issue and now usual behavioral patterns come into the picture again.
Step 4: You instantly want to share it with someone you claim to be close. While sharing you instantly have a pre-conceived notion with expectations and ego involved. When you don't receive the desired response, reaction, sympathy, suggestion, solution or efforts from that person, it aggrevates you more. Now you are more frustated, irritated and angry. You feel that as an attack on your ego.
Step 5: Now you attack the person you claimed to be close for not reacting/responding as per your desire with claims like "You also have issues and problems but I am there no". So you claim to ease the other person's life with your efforts, solutions and advices, but that solely is your dominant opinion. There is no other person's say in it regarding what he/she actually feels about your illusionary efforts or helps. Infact how your behave, mistreatements and words mostly make him feel derailed of life.
Step 6: So now since you have attacked the other person's mental stability and peace, you feel pleasured that now you are not the only one facing problem. You feel peaceful and entertained by your inner unknown habit.
Step 7: Now the problem is not the main issue which you had in life. The main problem is the lack of desired expected response from the third person who you claimed to be close and eventually spoiled his/her mental peace and stability through your words, treatment, frustation n behave.
Step 8: To avoid the prolonged fight and arguement, your close person puts phone on aeroplane mode or switches it off coz if he/she keeps it on, you constantly call him/her to force him/her to talk to you so that you can insult and ridicule him/her for not giving desired response as per your will. And also at the same time you can shift the main issue and enjoy your say in the fight or arguement.
Step 9: You constantly disturb his/her mental peace and force him/her to chat/talk over phone with you so that you enjoy a long fight and arguement out of usual egoistic demeanour and habit attacking the other person's mental peace, stability and self-respect making him/her feel bad for every bit of his/her breath. After that the usual tantrums follow but you sleep peacefully after having ruined other person's day because of your own mindset and toxicity.
Step 10: No talks for few hours sometime days follows. After that you understand the value of person. All good bad expereinces from past follows. You text and harass him/her over phone again continuously through constant calls, chats etc. When you don't get the usual easy desired reaction/response again, you again get frustated, cry, retaliate, force to get things back as per your will and desire.
Step 11: It goes on for eternity till you both are on talking terms again. Once you get that, you again demean and insult the other person bringing the same issue of desired reaction into the conversation, though softly this time with less narcissism in order to have you win over the ego play and also make other person feel ridiculed and lost.
The cycle continues......
© thestubbornbeast_10
