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Difference
(The name has been changed for privacy purposes)

The other day, I took my friend, Moh, to a place that I frequently visit, and a place of which I previously talked about on my second notebook; Toastic. Prior to taking him there, I noted to him that the tasty coffee, the calm environment, the tidiness of the place, the lovely attitude of the workers, and the odd location of the bakery, which was in the middle of a neighborhood, for the purpose of building a familiar community, were the reasons behind my constant visits, all of which create suitable conditions for me to write and read.
As we reached our destination, I suggested to my friend that we should walk for a few minutes at the track that surrounds the football, basketball and volleyball pitches, all of which are inside a small park in front of Toastic. The small park was filled with families; parents were sitting in the green grass, kids were playing all over the park, and teams were challenging each other in the three aforementioned games. As we took our stroll at the park, Moh took in the atmosphere, then he told me: "This is indeed a lovely community."
"I was talking about the idea of the bakery when I said that, not the park." I replied.
"And I am talking about the park, ha! Look at everyone knowing each other. I love this." Said Moh.
"It is a lovely community indeed, but that is the same case with every other neighborhood with a park."
"We do not have a park in our neighborhood, it's just dust and buildings! We used to have a similar atmosphere at our old palace. I miss it. Everybody was close. Everybody knew each other, but now, I don't even know my closest neighbors..." a disappointed Moh replied.
I could not reply to what he said. However, despite it not being emotionally visible, my friend's statement struck me, hard, for a number of reasons.
One of them being that I randomly thought that he had similar living conditions as mine, when he did not. That was a clear error on my part.
Just because you live a particular reality, does not mean that others live that same reality, or even a similar one. Realities differ, and every individual could be living their own, separate, unique reality. Understand that, and understand that you should not assume that people are experiencing the same things you experience. Or more accurately: you should not 'keep on' assuming that they must experience what you experience, because, such a tendency, could have big interactional consequences; such as not having the ability to understand others.
Another reason for my astonishment by what he said, was my understanding of his past. Moh lived his childhood in a palace. The conditions were great. It was easy. Even though he still lives in great conditions, it was much better in terms of interaction, but it was limited in terms of things to do.
However, most importantly, particularly, and astonishingly; when Moh reminisces over his previous living conditions and his previous reality, he is only and solely nostalgic of how simple everyone was in their dealings/relationships with each other. He does not care about the luxurious aspect of his past reality, neither his current one, he would even abandon the nice living conditions to get the reality of how simple he, his relatives, his friends and neighbors were.
When I had a train of thoughts on the matter, I realised I am similar in a sense; my past, in terms of how I and everyone I knew acted and lived, was so much simpler, and purer.
Now, a lot of them have lost the simplicity of their interactions, and their being itself, in the process of looking for a new, luxurious lifestyle. In doing so, they shockingly fail to recognise that a good number of individuals who already managed to reach that luxurious reality, tend to want nothing more, than to get that simple reality back.
At the very end of that day, I remembered what my friend said to me and how I related. Then, as I tried to conclude the whole idea with one statement, or sentence, to make it clear and concise; I came up with the following:
(No matter how luxurious your living conditions/ambitions are, you'll always go back to seeking simplicity.)