It all happened days after I had committed what looked like an offence in her sight.

The first occasion was the day I decided to call to check up on Bella to know how her day went.

I placed a call to her with great excitement knowing fully well how much I’ve missed her because she was at work all day so, I couldn’t reach out to her through a phone call.

(D̥ͦu̥ͦn̥ͦ D̥ͦu̥ͦn̥ͦ...) the phone rang, she didn’t pick up the phone, again, I tried, yet she didn’t pick it up, I resorted to sending her a text message to let her know how much I yearned to speak to her.

Just immediately after I sent the text message, a thought came to me to reach her on her home cell phone to know where she is exactly. After a long ring, her mom picked up the phone to inform me she hasn’t arrived from work. I became quite worried at that moment.

After a while, my phone rang, behold it was Bella’s call. I excitedly answered the phone call to know where she had been.

She told me she was in an important meeting that didn’t permit her to pick her calls, though she saw the text message.

I decided to ask her how her day went and of course the meeting, she joyfully told me the meeting was amazing, she added that she was a bit late so, after the closing time she decided to wait for a brief executive discussion.

I went on to ask her about their leadership modalities because that happened to be my own interest as of the moment, though she went on to explain it but she did it in a withdrawn manner of which I noticed but didn’t ask what the problem was.

The second occasion was when Bella tried to inform me about a change in her work schedule as regards to her days of work, as she explained with a quite sad mood and how she didn’t like the new work days schedule, I caught in the middle of the conversation to let her know that work days are work days and she needed to just accept the decision of the management to do the needful.

She went further to explain the advantages the initial schedule offered her against the new schedule, she was also worried about her responsibilities of the remaining days that she wouldn’t be going to work. I still didn’t see reasons with her lamentation, instead I offered her my piece of mind as regards the issue.

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Days after these scenarios had ensued, we (𝐵𝑒𝑙𝑙𝑎 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝐼) got talking after work concerning a particular thing she needed to do, instead of me listening to the full gist and perhaps sympathize with her, no, I didn’t because I felt her move on the issue wasn’t the right one so, I tried to suggest other means to her.

Before I even turned to look at her face, she had all swollen up in grief and displeasure, so, she decided to let her words out to me:

Godwin she called out to me;

This is the third time you’re doing this to me she said, I hesitantly asked her what the matter is.

She continued as she took her time to narrate the story from the first instance down to the last instance of how reluctant I always react to her each time she tells me something serious about her own concerns.

As I listened raptly to her with my face turned sideways, she continued:

She said I should learn how to always listen to her and thereafter show her how empathetic I am to what she has told me and further take sides with her on the matter so that she can be rest assured that I have put myself in her shoes to know exactly how she feels.

She added that, most of the times instead of me listening to her, I would rather prefer to make her feel that it was a mistake to have related such an issue to me because I end up creating what looks like an argument to her and that act puts her off to continue in the conversation.

As she spilled out her displeasure, I maintained decorum and a calm demeanor to really get the points she was making.

She looked at me and said; though what she’s saying may look like a child’s talk to me but she’s serious about it because it doesn’t put us in the same level of reasoning and immediately I do what I’m fond of doing, it makes her so turned down and disheartened.

After all said and done, I thanked her for her critical observation and the courage to share such a burden with me. I promised to change and to act better.

When they say an event was awesome, they expect you to ask how awesome it really was and when they aren’t sure of their emotions about something or in displeasure, they expect you make them feel secure by seeing reasons why they feel the way they do and further empathize with them before you think about the many options of solutions you have to offer.

Guys, ladies are different creatures, most of the times, when they say some things, what they want from you is a follow up on what they’re thinking not what you think. They want you to be sympathetic and remorseful in situations that requires that and be excited as well when they gist in such direction.

Ladies, please, when a guy does something displeasing to you, don't allow it linger for too long before addressing such an issue with him, he might probably not be aware that what he's doing is absolutely wrong except he's a type that's very sensitive to your emotions (moods).

I trust that this will help you know more about the female folks and how different they think and act.

Thanks for reading through.