Be Genuine...but don't miss the Anticipated !

I remember one of the Miss World beauty pageant some years back when the final results were declared amongst the top three contestants,..."And the second Runner Up is...Miss###"..(loads of applauses). Now the final two contestants were on the stage and announcement came,.."and the First Runner Up is...Miss XYZ"...and miss XYZ started jumping, laughing, running around the stage...So overwhelmed, through her misunderstanding that she won it.. ..then someone made her realised that she didn't won it(she was first runner-up)..on this realisation, she continued the smile, cheering, emotions of joy and hugged the obvious winner, congratulated her and stepped aside.
The same person..Same Emotions..but with the difference..
Wasn't her joy in appreciating her opponents win was different than her misunderstood win..?
Was it not more genuine when she jumped for herself than she hugged her opponent..
Her expression of joy for the opponent was in accordance of what was expected from her..(though it may not be genuine)..

So we often express two types of Emotions..the one which we genuinely felt..and the other which are anticipated or expected..
Thus, while watching a family drama on TV, a tragic scene make your face long with saddened anticipated emotion (you can not laugh on it, okay)...or..though you are in a sad mood, but you keep a smiling face in a party depicting a happy anticipated emotion.. Or..You are expected to express grief on someone's demise..isn't it ?
You may sometimes repress your genuine emotions but often miss to express the anticipated emotions either.
Expression of anticipated emotions are many a times a need of that moment..

Let me explain..

think of LOVE in a marital relationship..
When it is GENUINE, it would be reflected through caring, sharing, making things for each other, sensing difficulties & extending co-operation,and so on... So without expressing, both could felt it's genuineness ( it's not necessarily always in words like,'I love you dear!').

But when it comes to anticipated part of it..Well it's bit tricky..

because sometimes mere silent genuinity won't work..It has to be supported with words (like, Love you dear) or actions (a hug, may be)..this is what's​ anticipated (expected)..

In most of the marital conflict cases i dealt with, the couples take it granted that their genuine emotions are understood and need not be expressed (OMG..So do I keep on saying 'I love you' or give a hug all the times..?).

believe me, doing what is anticipated could do a trick for better marital relationship (and for that matter, it would work for all kind of relations)..
By doing so,you confirm your concerns for each other. Often we do it even for strangers but miss it for our dear ones.

So if not always, give a stroke of anticipated emotions, once in a while. Appreciate her or him on his dressing, cooking, support or whatever.
Your genuine emotions may contradict sometimes, but if you care about your 'motives', express what is anticipated.

Okay..now before you 'genuinely' feel that this article is becoming too lengthy, it is 'anticipated' that I should stop it here only..Ha..Ha !

Your genuine/anticipated comments and Sharing is welcome !!!

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