Drowning in her bobble of thoughts, with a simple question I popped it with a needle. "What signifies a good relationship, is it longevity or the quality of it?". She adjusted herself, sitting firmly in her seat. Her breathing still, her arms crossed. "The quality I would say" she uttered hesitately. unsure, her words lacked confidence. "I don't know", immediately changing her mind, clearly she thought about it. "Which one signifies a good relationship?" Giving back the question I offered. "Tough isn't it." I said, preparing to explain.

"Longevity doesn't mean fruitful & quality can be short lived, which one is worth suffering for is the question." Spilling my Friday thoughts on a Saturday afternoon. "Why suffer?" she uttered softly. "Pride comes with decades endured, managed and overcome, being satisfied with an achievement many fail. But tucking pain away to smile in people's faces eat too much of the soul. yes you have years, but how well are you getting taken care of. Are your needs considered, is your health even a thought, yes they provide, but you serve a function that's all. but your relationship is successful based on the years conqured, but after 30 years you still don't know your smile."

"Interesting, how then can you suffer from a short quality relationship?" she asked with curiosity. I looked into her eyes and responded "Comparison". "Explain?" she replied with anticipation. "You will always compare what you currently have with what you've had. The quality relationship will be a thorn in your side, never satisfied, never truly in the moment, just searching for that similar high. Yes everything was done right, but it was always meant to expire. You were loved truly, Considered truly, understood truly... But how can perfection end, that means anything that doesn't live up to it, is prone to ending. because all of it will not live to that standard so why even bother maintaining it."

She asked needeing an answer, "Then longevity nor quality should be what signifies a relationship, based on the conditions you've set ofcourse. Because longevity can be fruitful and quality and be long." I responded "Yes, If you work for it?, Honestly, the willingness to talk about things and learn your partner are indicators of a good relationship, from that quality and longevity is birth".

"Simply talking about things don't work?" she said sarcastically. "Why, is this a fact, or an experience manifesting itself in your words? Because people tend to cut off an opportunity because of how a particular person responded. Rather than giving the current person the opportunity instead of robbing them of the chance." I responded sternly. "Hmmm, if I give them the chance then what?", She responded with lack of interest. "Learn your partner to cultivate the right approach suitable for the uncomfortable conversations you will have to produce peace as the result. but willingness is the essential key." I said with conviction.

I felt the words dearly, it reminded me of my failure, my unwillingness to see imperfections are not a problem, but a gift to cultivate a heart eager to put the puzzle pieces together. Discovering bliss in a human who has uncovered another dimension to themselves. To be proud that We did that. we overcame the Obstacles, we unlearned and discarded a concept of connection unfruitful to us..... I had quality, I had longevity, it was perfect, But the problem was me.

© fruitfulodyssey