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STUPID I.
When my second Son was about 2 to 3 years old, he could not pronounce the word (Despicable).
But he loved the movie (Despicable Me); So we had bought it as a DVD.
Since he was still quite short, his hand yet could not reach the DVD on the shelf.
So he comes to me and says;
"Mum, I want to watch (STUPID I) pointing up at the shelf, straight at the DVD of (Despicable me).
I use to laugh about it so much, he also will laugh along with his elder brother, because he was obviously improvising on a big English he could not yet pronounce.
Somehow, he still remembers this scenarios in his little boy life.
But that is not the story today.
Over the years, every now and then, I find my self in some fluid situations.
Situations where I have to assist my friends, colleagues, juniors, seniors, subordinates and superiors to be decerning and figure out what they should do in Fix situation they may have found themselves.
Albeit unconsciously derived, but a fix all the same.
They suddenly have these sticky beans something, that they have cooked and burnt, probably to ashes and they need to figure out their next steps.
Somehow, they come to this (STUPID I).🤷♀️
Though, I have been told that I am quite easy to talk to.
But I am no authority on anything, far from it in fact.
But then, they all say, I don't judge.
Well, I simply listen, then we scatter these things and then we tear some of it to pieces.
We then, carefully pick up and scrutinise each part of the dynamics, so we can piece it all back together to identify the next steps they should take.
The thing is though, many of them have told me that I should be charging people for coaching and mentorship consultation.
They say they always leave better than they came to me, with clarity on how to go about the issues they had highlighted for me to assist them with.
But lately, a colleague told me that I admonished him clearly and yet he did not feel bad.
He said I did not shout at him about it or make him to feel bad for haven made the blunder.
He said, I only explained from both his own point of view and that of the superior he had offended, which made him see clearly the mistake he had made without intention.
He also said the way I explained it to him, made him know that he had to retrace his steps and apologise somehow to this superior without further prompt.
Sometimes, I pretend not know that I am easy to relate with. Other times, I look for how to be a bit of a bi-tch with tiny sucess.
But most times, I love to analyse an Identified fix situation to an open mind, I will rather scope out all the reasons why this mind, should have acted differently that it already did.
Some things come easy, but one shouldn't ignore years of mentorship from the best of leaders with great minds too.
I honestly have been through the best of leaders and I don't take it for granted.
I have not stopped going to them, when i have somehow entered my own Fix to be fixed.
© Ibadiaran Omo Akinde
But he loved the movie (Despicable Me); So we had bought it as a DVD.
Since he was still quite short, his hand yet could not reach the DVD on the shelf.
So he comes to me and says;
"Mum, I want to watch (STUPID I) pointing up at the shelf, straight at the DVD of (Despicable me).
I use to laugh about it so much, he also will laugh along with his elder brother, because he was obviously improvising on a big English he could not yet pronounce.
Somehow, he still remembers this scenarios in his little boy life.
But that is not the story today.
Over the years, every now and then, I find my self in some fluid situations.
Situations where I have to assist my friends, colleagues, juniors, seniors, subordinates and superiors to be decerning and figure out what they should do in Fix situation they may have found themselves.
Albeit unconsciously derived, but a fix all the same.
They suddenly have these sticky beans something, that they have cooked and burnt, probably to ashes and they need to figure out their next steps.
Somehow, they come to this (STUPID I).🤷♀️
Though, I have been told that I am quite easy to talk to.
But I am no authority on anything, far from it in fact.
But then, they all say, I don't judge.
Well, I simply listen, then we scatter these things and then we tear some of it to pieces.
We then, carefully pick up and scrutinise each part of the dynamics, so we can piece it all back together to identify the next steps they should take.
The thing is though, many of them have told me that I should be charging people for coaching and mentorship consultation.
They say they always leave better than they came to me, with clarity on how to go about the issues they had highlighted for me to assist them with.
But lately, a colleague told me that I admonished him clearly and yet he did not feel bad.
He said I did not shout at him about it or make him to feel bad for haven made the blunder.
He said, I only explained from both his own point of view and that of the superior he had offended, which made him see clearly the mistake he had made without intention.
He also said the way I explained it to him, made him know that he had to retrace his steps and apologise somehow to this superior without further prompt.
Sometimes, I pretend not know that I am easy to relate with. Other times, I look for how to be a bit of a bi-tch with tiny sucess.
But most times, I love to analyse an Identified fix situation to an open mind, I will rather scope out all the reasons why this mind, should have acted differently that it already did.
Some things come easy, but one shouldn't ignore years of mentorship from the best of leaders with great minds too.
I honestly have been through the best of leaders and I don't take it for granted.
I have not stopped going to them, when i have somehow entered my own Fix to be fixed.
© Ibadiaran Omo Akinde
