Antisocial personality disorder, such a big word but extremely common problems among today's youth. I have neither experienced it nor can I explain the suffering through which people go in these illnesses. I often wished to converse on this issue, it seems really unusual, many of us don't even know what actually happens in this. People assume that this is an everyday problem and there is nothing to worry about but trust me there is something to worry about.
I never understood how devastating and unbearable is this syndrome until I faced a man suffering from Antisocial personality disorder. He is frightened to face humans, in fact, his parents as well. He dislikes his life, he is terrified to make eye connections, he never visits anyone and occasionally he even injures himself.
Isn't it wired?
Well, for us it is, we always imagine that they are furious or they are an attention-seeker but that's not real.
When I initially talked to him I felt like he is miserable, he is keeping something inside and he needs to communicate. I spoke to him and asked him to be confident and positive, I myself felt that nothing was wrong with him and he just had a shortage of confidence. But I was wrong, it's not that easy for him to be confident and live a normal life. I googled the symptoms and the reasons for this suffering and learned that they lie, break laws, they have a lack of controls, they mostly go through mood swings and general discontents. This disorder arises due to child abuse, alcoholic parents, heartbreaks and by confronting the brutality towards the animals.
I asked him the reason for his behaviour and learnt that he was a school topper and in his childhood was accused of victimizing a girl. Later it was proved wrong and the girl agreed that she told an untruth. That particular incident impacted his life in a tragic manner and he lost his confidence to face people. At that moment he needed his parents and friends to support him but he was left alone and the only friend of his childhood died in an accident that became an awful phase and the innocuous mind of the kid started fearing of loneliness and rejections. He tried to approach his parents, but they misinterpreted his disorder to tantrums and forced him to achieve and study.
Most of the time we being parents and friends neglect the person problem and instead of listening to them try to force our opinions upon them. The fact is that we are scared to accept the truth that somebody lacks support, and a person can get such difficulties and nothing is to hide in this from society.
We truly need to step forward and help them heal as this disorder is a cognitive fitness condition in which a person has a long-term habit of manipulating, abusing, or disobeying the rights of others. This behaviour is often unlawful.
It can't be cured fully but can be healed gradually.