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Shadows of Pretense: Unveiling Truth in Love's Maze
Red flags aren't always about the other person. When you start lying to yourself about who they are, so that you don't have to face losing them, that's the flag to pay attention to. Always pay more attention to people's intentions and mindset rather than their appearance. Don't confuse the soul with the shell. Some boundaries won't make you lose friends and relationships; they'll make you lose pretenders and manipulators. You believed that I am a bad person, so you don't feel guilty about the things you did to me. I was a victim of overthinking and trust issues. That was my battle each day. I had you, who pretended to be on my side, but in the end, you left me hanging. I will never forget how you let me suffer while you're enjoying the presence of another person over me. If you understood anything at all, I hope you learn not to let the same person pretend to be with you twice. The first time was hurtful enough. Don't ever put me in a position where I've got to show you how cold-hearted I can be. I don't want to "win" the argument or feel "right." That's not the point nor my objective. I want to feel like we've come to an understanding on the issue at hand. I want both of us to walk away feeling heard & understood. It's not a competition. It's a different kind of pain where I don't even cry anymore. It requires me to take a deep breath and accept it. There are certain issues that an apology and explanations can't fix, but actually, your mistakes don't alter my feelings. It's the mind that might get angry, but the heart continues to care. If you genuinely care about me or our relationship, then communication has never been hard for us. A lack of communication breeds assumptions of what the other person is thinking or feeling, and assumptions are, more often than not, incorrect. I have already spent enough time worrying about not being enough in your eyes. Now, I promise you, I will try to be enough for you. I never lost my emotions for you. Yes, I'm jealous, you're only mine and I'm not sharing you. You know I am different than most, but I do not see people in my life as part of a game. If I am your friend, I am loyal until my last breath, and if I love you, it is until my last beat. You won't find this heart of mine twice, and I promise, darling, one day, that thought will keep you up at night. I always wanted to be part of our entire journey... I have witnessed your dimples and assure you, I will be there to witness your wrinkles too. Love you a lot, my Sukoon ❤️