If you are someone who thinks positively,then this is not for you.....This is for someone who thinks like me,I know the world is imperfect hence I thought this could serve as a guide to those who need it.......The first step to survival is burying your ego and dissolving your pride,may be you are someone who stood first in your class all the time or someone graduated from premiere institutions but life doesnt spare anyone,don't consider yourself unlucky if you had to go through such phases because this is an opportunity to become the best version of yourself......Its not just about becoming the best version of yourself,it is about how to survive with things not going as per your wish.......I know it's dark,there is no hope but trust the process.......The second step to survival is quit your rigid thinking,like Iam this or Iam that,nobody is this or that,it's a matter of time and choices,you can accumulate many qualities if you are willing to change and most of all be like water,you fit in a bottle or a container,be flexible.......I know you would not be liking what all I have to say,because it's hard to swallow,and you donot have to do it my way,if you find someother coping mechanisms you can follow the same,this is just for someone who would think like me,at the end of the day what matters is how you get through your unfortunate times and survive......The third step to survival is look at your problems in someone else's perspective,may be your elders,parents,trust their experience because they have been there,don't own your problem,give time and space for opinions of your people......Sometimes life is not as much hard as you think,may be at that time you have to bring in someone else's perspective and try looking the world through their lens,it helps if you are willing to........The fourth step to survival is start associating tolerance,adapting, resilience as positive things,quit associating success,pride,ego or such things as positive things.......Not everyone walks this path,there are fortunate ones in this world who are defective in nature,yet lead their lives fulfullingly because life never tested them this way,but don't always curse your ill luck,consider it as an opportunity only a few would experience and sometimes Iam confused who the luckier one is.......The fifth thing to survival is start accepting failures, they are not the end of life,I know its a dark place to be in,but that's just how life works,try learning from your own mistakes and give it a try just once more,if you donot have this chance try exploring much bigger things,if you have all the positive virtues then life will offer you the best things,just believe that......The sixth step to survival is remember there are no black or white phases in life,just the grey ones,because even if you are in escasty,even if you achieve your goals,even if everything is fine the human brain always wishes something more and thus suffers,much as the same way even if you hit rock bottom,there will be many things to be thankful for,it could be one tasty meal or a seasonal fruit or whatever that brings you happiness,may be that is when you will start loving little things....little things in life are not little,if only you could feel them you will find they are soulful and the things that will help you to sail through tough phases of life,start romanticising every little thing,life automatically gets better.......The seventh step to survival is have faith in god,and believe in karma,destiny,seasons of life,remember life is a permanent feeling between two temporary things,every thing in life is temporary,your highs,your lows, everything and especially when you are in your lows this could act as a best medicine,be a good person,don't hurt others,help others,have faith in god, and hope your season of abundance is going to come soon...... So these are my seven steps to survive life,may be it's like Iam helping my own self to get out of the crisis Iam in,its more like a self help story but a lot would connect to it if only you are in the same place as Iam in and have the patience to go through such a long story....... I might have forgot things,or I could have written some things you would not agree but thanks for being with me,hope it helps😊........
© pavana