The narcissists need love and they crave love, and they go over and beyond to get it. It`s what happens after they have found a source willing and able to love them, that makes the narcissistic trades be prominent. Now, you need to be contained. This is when the abuse sets in, to ensure control over you and make you easy to deal with.

To be unhappy in love, is not a desired state of mind. It is uncomfortable, and most of us have felt the heavy sting of sadness, when longing for a love, not meant to be.

The narcissist has a bulletproof system that protects them from the pain of unfulfilled love. If they could change, they would not be narcissists. A narcissist does not trust that the love you feel for him will last. They have a very poor inner core, and they feel that if you are not controlled, you will leave.

This innocent beautiful and pure feeling you have for him, is highly appreciated, but the narcissist can`t help but destroy it. I don`t know of anyone more self-destructive, than the classic narcissist.

How much do he appreciate the incoming energy from you? The narcissist would like you to fall in love with them, and then decide what to do with you. They need love, so why not try you as a supply in addition to the others? How stable is the love from you, and will it last? The narcissist truly enjoys the first period of the relationship, when the feelings of you falling in love is real and powerful.

Even if it turns into a mutual addiction after a while, when your true feelings for the narc is no longer love, but fear, the narcissist craves more, and nothing can replace true love. He will turn your emotions and feelings against you, and make you a prisoner in your own life, by your own feelings. The narcissist does not trust that you will stay in love with them, so they need to break your spirit, to make you stay as a reliable source of attention and energy in their life, even if it turns into a sad situation for everyone involved, ending in disaster.

The narcissist will always have the upper hand, simply because he is not afraid of feelings of guilt and remorse. “To not love, means you won’t lose love, and you don’t fear losing it”. When you don`t fear these feelings, the emotional blood bath can beguine. The narcissist will win.

The narcissist will turn your feelings of love into your fear of them leaving you. A sensible intelligent person can fall victim to this travesty, and find themselves without the ability to react reasonable. This is a matter of being enlightened and strengthened through information and therapy, and to unhook and being free of the addiction.

He will use your true feelings of love, against you. He will make you feel greedy for wanting and needing interaction with the person you thought he was, and who you are in a relationship with. He will make you prove to him that you love him by going the extra mile, correcting, and running an extra marathon when he needs incoming energy. A narcissist will make sure you are punished for loving him.

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