The aims of every relationship, be it marital, courtship, friendship, or platonic, are to help ease each other's stress and burden, to support and encourage each other, to be a shoulder to rely on when the whole world seems to be against you, your relationship should provide a shoulder where you will find peace, succor, and solace without any atom of fear of being judged.

Anything short of that is a red flag and a threat to you and your well-being, anybody in your life that cost you...