Narcissists and dangerously insecure people that use their complexes to manipulate, control and abuse the people around them. Most narcissists believe they are better than everyone else, and this belief doesn’t stop at their romantic relationships or intimate partnerships. To the narcissist, sex is just another means to control — and one that has lasting and long-term consequences for everyone involved.

Protecting yourself from the clutches and abuse of sexual narcissist is necessary in order to shelter and care for your own mental, emotional and physical wellbeing. By learning how to spot the signs and behaviors of this type of narcissist, you can safeguard your happiness and build up the basis of understanding you need to survive and thrive in the midst of a narcissistic onslaught.

Sex and narcissists.
When it comes to narcissism, their abuse doesn’t just end at general put-downs and immature and self-centered behavior. To some narcissists, the ultimate means of control is excercising their complexes through sexual manipulation and coercion, one of the most dangerous and toxic forms of abuse that can be exercised in an intimate relationship.

Sexual narcissism occurs when one partner has a grandiose view of their bedtime prowess, and uses that aggrandized behavior to emotionally and physically manipulate their partners in and out of the bedroom. The sexual narcissist is a person who lacks the ability to truly get intimate with their partners, and their marked by their willingness to exploit their partner’s (sexually) to get what they want. Sexual narcissists take their self-obsession to an entirely different level, and it’s important to know the signs of their abuse so you can protect yourself from their damaging behavior.

Signs your sex-life is being manipulated by a narcissist.
If your sex life is being controlled, manipulated or dominated by a sexual narcissist there are a few concrete signs you can look out for. Though some narcissists are more covert than others, there are some behaviors that just can’t be hidden. If one or more of these traits sounds familiar, it might be time to take a step back and reassess.

Focus on the physical rather than the emotional
To many types of a narcissist, love-making is an opportunity to focus on appearance and image, making them abhor flaws or weakness and center in on physical aspects of themselves or their partners. Sex isn’t about connecting to them. It’s about measuring up expectations, and when that happens you’ll start to notice on an emphasis on the physical, rather than the emotional — leading to something missing in both the bedroom and the relationship.

Charming with a catch
Narcissists have an inherent need to be desired, and that can allow them to come across as alluring or attractive. In the early stages of a relationship, they’ll use this sexual charm and charisma to win you over. Once you’re on the inside, however, you’ll start to notice that these traits are crafted (much like a honeypot) to impress, entrap and then — ultimately — manipulate.

Forcing you to serve their needs
While not all narcissists allow their flaws to permeate the bonds of intimacy, some do. Sexual narcissists might start off romantic, caring and loving, but they quickly devolve into self-centered people who use you to cater to their own selfish needs. They might expect you to behave as though you are little more than an extension of their wishes, or they might treat your body as though it is little more than piece of property created to serve their desires.

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