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Relationship arguments - 23 does and dont does
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You need to keep in mind that you can’t take your words back in an argument once you say it, even if you didn’t mean to say something rude!
23dos and don’ts in a relationship argument
**1 Don’t be silent:
When your partner confronts you or asks you for an answer, don’t just ignore them or sit quietly like they’re not important enough to deserve a response. You may think that ignoring them may be the best way to deal with an angry lover, but in fact, they’ll feel worse when you do that!
**2 Don’t raise your hand:
You probably know you’re wrong and can’t justify yourself, and instead of accepting defeat, you use your hands to get even and show your power.
**3 Don’t kick them when they’re down:
Don’t say extremely harsh statements to which your partner just has no answers *which aren’t even related to the argument* just to shut them up.
**4 Don’t ignore them:
After the fight, don’t ignore your partner, especially when they’re pleading for your attention. If you don’t feel like talking to them, request them for some time alone. It’s way better than ignoring them and making them feel miserable.
**5 Don’t threaten your partner:
Don’t say that you’re leaving or that you want to break up when you’re in the middle of an argument.
**6 Don’t use vulgarity:
Avoid using vulgarity in an argument just to bring out your point. It’ll just irritate your partner
**7 Don’t be proud:
“So what are you going to do about it?” is never a good way to communicate with your partner in the middle of an argument. It just shows your superiority.
**8 Don’t use a few words:
Avoid using words like “never” and “always” when you’re trying to say something in an argument because you’d only end up putting your partner on the offensive because you’re turning their one mistake into a lifelong curse. “You always do that…” or “You never listen…” won’t ever help you in an argument unless you’re trying to hurt your partner.
**9 Don’t apologize just to hurt them: Many partners apologize about something in the middle of an argument, and they stand up with their chest held high just to see how their partner would react. “Yes, I spent MY money without telling you!” or an “I slept with your best friend!” is not going to end the argument, it’ll just take the fight away on a completely different tangent!
**10 Don’t reject that you’re angry:
If you’re angry, just say it. Don’t pretend and say you’re fine when clearly, you’re not. It won’t make you feel better nor will it help you ignore the issue.
**11 Don’t raise old issues:
If you’re losing an argument, don’t bring up old issues from the past just to put your partner in place. Talk about the matter in hand and avoid roaming from the present to the past, unless you want your partner to emotionally block themselves from you.
You need to keep in mind that you can’t take your words back in an argument once you say it, even if you didn’t mean to say something rude!
23dos and don’ts in a relationship argument
**1 Don’t be silent:
When your partner confronts you or asks you for an answer, don’t just ignore them or sit quietly like they’re not important enough to deserve a response. You may think that ignoring them may be the best way to deal with an angry lover, but in fact, they’ll feel worse when you do that!
**2 Don’t raise your hand:
You probably know you’re wrong and can’t justify yourself, and instead of accepting defeat, you use your hands to get even and show your power.
**3 Don’t kick them when they’re down:
Don’t say extremely harsh statements to which your partner just has no answers *which aren’t even related to the argument* just to shut them up.
**4 Don’t ignore them:
After the fight, don’t ignore your partner, especially when they’re pleading for your attention. If you don’t feel like talking to them, request them for some time alone. It’s way better than ignoring them and making them feel miserable.
**5 Don’t threaten your partner:
Don’t say that you’re leaving or that you want to break up when you’re in the middle of an argument.
**6 Don’t use vulgarity:
Avoid using vulgarity in an argument just to bring out your point. It’ll just irritate your partner
**7 Don’t be proud:
“So what are you going to do about it?” is never a good way to communicate with your partner in the middle of an argument. It just shows your superiority.
**8 Don’t use a few words:
Avoid using words like “never” and “always” when you’re trying to say something in an argument because you’d only end up putting your partner on the offensive because you’re turning their one mistake into a lifelong curse. “You always do that…” or “You never listen…” won’t ever help you in an argument unless you’re trying to hurt your partner.
**9 Don’t apologize just to hurt them: Many partners apologize about something in the middle of an argument, and they stand up with their chest held high just to see how their partner would react. “Yes, I spent MY money without telling you!” or an “I slept with your best friend!” is not going to end the argument, it’ll just take the fight away on a completely different tangent!
**10 Don’t reject that you’re angry:
If you’re angry, just say it. Don’t pretend and say you’re fine when clearly, you’re not. It won’t make you feel better nor will it help you ignore the issue.
**11 Don’t raise old issues:
If you’re losing an argument, don’t bring up old issues from the past just to put your partner in place. Talk about the matter in hand and avoid roaming from the present to the past, unless you want your partner to emotionally block themselves from you.
