It's funny how you find can be tough like a man but still treated as a fragile wall flower to be overlooked.

I have been thru and survived more horrific events than most have in a lifetime.

Yet, still over looked or treated different or crazy because the stuff that happens to me doesn't and hasn't happened to anyone else.

Take for example, right now I am in the middle of a nasty custody battle. Children I grew and created, have lived and resided with me the last 9 years prior to my first marriage falling to pieces.

The kids live and breath with me yet, during a visitation the ex monstrosity of a husband filed for a emergency custody while I was hospitalized/quarantined during a pandemic! Who does THAT? THAT GUY, THATS WHO!

I'm so dumbfounded at how someone can try to destroy another, during a pandemic where theres shortages every where let alone it's pretty much pick and choose what places of important business are even open.

Whatever you do..dont sneeze because something funky is in the air you might get quarantined for Corona even though you've tested negative.

For fuck sakes, seriously, find new ways to pray on the little people with unnecessary tests and costs.

Poor delicate "crazy woman" gets out of hospitalizations to find my child support to pay for kids stuff before a new school system starts..is shut off with fake claims to custody..say what?

What's next? NEVER, EVER, ASK THAT QUESTION.

BAM..BOOM..back to back.. heres a 35 page fabrication of a lawsuit for custody and to drop all future child support payments and a lawsuit to dissolve my current marriage.

Say what..is this even real right now? Fresh out of a quarantine and treatment for stress/anxiety and irritation I'm hit with both of those?

I dont know what the ex monster had in mind other than what he always does... get out of support, wine he still loves me, all while stabbing me in the back AFTER we agree on things and communicate amicable! What is this really about other than to be malicious?

Who is really benefiting here?

My kids for one and for that I'm grateful. The ex isnt winning anything here. His history is still admitted and really isnt getting away with anything for say but my kids..they get to attend better schools in a larger community where most of it isnt shut down. Businesses are booming in the South.

Sure they have to wear masks but my kids have access to far more where their father presently does, than I have access to where I live.

My kids are well taken care of material wise, in good schools, sports, excell in band camps..what more could I ask for?

I'm not losing anything! My children are thriving where they are despite a legal battle between parents, excelling in things we don't normally have available in a small town, and we split all custody fifty-fifty.

Even the losers win in this battle. As long as my babies are loved and cared for it doesn't matter what house they reside in. Some countries send their kids off to boarding schools by the time they've reached my children's ages. So that's the new outlook I like to have..they're just off at boarding school getting to know their father. Simply sweet outcome.

My current divorce is quite comical if I do say so myself. Nothing is ever as it seems.

I am in fact getting a divorce but we are still together and doing something we never did before..date.

Simple concept we never tried before we jumped the gun and got married right after a very traumatic divorce to my children's father.

Still sounds funny to be dating my exhusband. He truly is and has been my best friend for the past nearly decade.

We may never have had kids together but he truly did and does love my kids as if they were his own. Not many people can say that with 100% honesty.

Who else can say their partner in crime is their ex? Ha, next to none.

I'm a lucky gal, not to brag but my exhusband and best friend took me out for my 40th birthday! A fabulous restaurant in the perfect setting and all while in middle of a divorce! That just doesn't happen to anyone else that I know of.

Going thru a custody battle that brings up hurtful pasts is no pic nic. Rehashing old anger and wounds for no other reason than to be hurtful, is just hateful to me and proved who really had my back all these years. No matter how many times and ways the ex-monster tried to interfere.

I've worked full time while attending school full time and raised three amazing kids up until now. I've been a stay at home mother on and off thru the years to suit kids needs. I have no complaints. I've earned every gray hair on my beautiful head. Lessons learned and memories cherished.

I didnt lose anything. I earned my freedom and independence back while knowing my kids are 100% safe and excelling in all areas.

What more could a girl ask for?? Nothing I can think off. No one loses, we're all winners in this scenario.

Stop underestimating woman and looking at us as we're weak or fragile. We can, and have over come much greater hardships than just what you see laying by our feet.

Our bodies have been thru more trauma birthing your seed than any lawsuit or court battle you throw at me. I can not and will not be broken!

Stop playing malicious games and underestimating woman. We know a great deal more than we've ever spoken.

Give us a chance and listen..you might learn a tough lesson or two.

No greater gift than the gift of friendship and laughter..just love each other regardless of our differences or shortcomings.

Just stop underestimating woman!
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