I wish to become a doctor,my dream is to be a lawyer,we humans are often full of those dreams of ours forgetting the meaning of مكتوب which is “it is written” Yes,it has been written by our creator. All what we are going to become,the happenings in our life, everything has been written. As humans,we can only strive,we can only aim,we can only aspire but we should have the notion that “it has been written”. How I met my husband is the best story to illustrate this.

Being the type that comes from a monogamous family,I have always detest the idea of becoming a second wife, not to mention third or fourth. Throughout my University days,any man that seeks my consent in marriage is either looking for third or fourth,the single ones are not responsible. I kept on praying and sometimes I fast just to keep asking God for my own picture of my husband. My mom once had this following conversation with me;
Mom~ Rodiat Abeke mi

Rodiat~ Maami, what is it?

Mom~ Do you know we all are like characters in a story?

Rodiat~ hmmm,yes Mom

Mom~ Good,the author has already written the story,we as characters are just there to execute the written script.

Rodiat~ mom,what are you insinuating?

Mom~ Am trying to tell you to accept what has already been written for you.

Rodiat~ Mom,is like I know where you are heeding but am not in for that now

Mom~ I kuku won't force you,I am only trying to guide you as your mom, maybe you have been destined to be a second wife or third or even fourth,we can't question Allah,as He alone knows what is best for us.

Rodiat~ I trust my God,He will definitely give me what I want as He has said we should ask and it shall be granted.

Mom~ What if What you seek for isn't good for you? What if He is only trying to protect you from the evil of what you want by giving you what is best for you?

Rodiat~ hmmm,Moooom,Fine,you won,I will think about it.

My mom actually hit a spot inside of me,I kept thinking of what she said. So I change my prayer point by Asking Him to bestow upon me with whatever He alone knows is Best for me. One sunny Sunday evening,I was on my way from a friend's wedding waiting for a ride in front of a shopping mall when one little angel ran towards me with a candy asking me to help her open it,I was so amused by her gesture, definitely an adult can't do this to someone they don't know but the innocent creatures can. I granted her request and asked for her mom,she replied,her mom traveled,who brought you here then,I haven't pronounced the then when a very good looking man appeared before me looking lost,he heave a sigh of relief when he saw the angel in front of me. Mahmudah,do you want to kill daddy? The little girl said no and pouted. He finally turned to me and apologized for his daughter invading my privacy.I smiled and said it's nothing that I was actually glad to have met her. He took her hands and they both left,the little girl Mahmudah not wanting to get entangled with me,like we have always known one another. This little one Sha,I muttered to myself with a smile.

I kept thinking of the event for a while,it makes me crave motherhood so much. Several weeks later,a colleague of mine gave birth and it was the naming ceremony day.I went to grace the occasion and it was a success. I was about to leave when someone said Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh sister to me from behind,I looked back and behold it was Mahmudah's father,I replied the teslim and ask for his daughter,he replied she is at his mother's. Ohhh,what of her mom,I asked? He replied she traveled. He asked if i'm on my way home so he can drop me if I don't mind and I consented. It was during the drive I got to know Mahmudah’s mom actually died after birthing her. Her mom that traveled is his first wife who went on a business trip to Dubai. We vibe so well that we decided to have each other's contact so I can check up on Mahmudah(call it an excuse,your palava🌝).
How we ended up getting married is a story for another day. Abdurrazaq is my dream man except for the fact that he is already married to two women, one of whom is dead. Mahmudah is another gift I got through him.I honestly love the girl like she is from my womb. His first wife is also very receptive,she took me like her younger sister and we connected really well. Being a busy medical practitioner myself,I actually got to like the idea of having someone to take care of my man when occupied with work for too long. I get to understand the concept of polygyny. Having co wife's whom you all are after the goal of making your man Happy is not a bad idea as I have conceived. Though I once detested the idea but since “it has been written” who am I to not accept what has been destined for me? Alhamdulillah, perhaps I couldn't be this happily married if I were to marry a single man.